The Power of Blogging Friends: Who’s In Your Blogging Corner?
By: Amanda Boyce

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You know that old saying, “No man is an island”? Not only is it true but can that wise quote should be applied to the world of blogging.

If you look at the most successful bloggers in the business, you’d see that these individuals aren’t just lone strangers in the community. All of them have spent time developing and cultivating key relationships with their peers. From the dynamic duo that is Jamie Beck and Kelly Framel to the budding blogging groups found all over the country, finding fellow bloggers who relate to your successes/obstacles is as important to your blogger development as learning more marketing skills or taking photography courses.

Why are blogging peers so crucial to your success?

  • They help you see “the bigger picture”
  • They can sympathize with blogging challenges
  • They have their own network that they can offer to you in times of need
  • They offer an outsider’s perspective on posts, business decisions

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For instance, say you are having trouble nailing a sponsor for an event. You sit and brainstorm but your brain is completely fried. What should you do, give up? How about calling up your friend, scheduling a dinner and discussing your troubles? Guaranteed, your friend will have a fresh perspective and possibly a resolution for you. AND she might have a contact for you. Problem solved.

However, you may think that these blogging peers are competition, that they are threatening your success. I’ve seen this many times at parties where a popular blogger will act standoffish and avoid mingling with fellow bloggers. Not only does this come off as awkward, it’s not the smartest PR move. These are YOUR people, your community. They will be there to help you grow, champion your growth and be there to listen when things get tough. By distancing yourself from the community, you are only making things harder. For example, think about Regina George, the Wicked Witch of the West, and every other movie villain known to man. They all isolated themselves from their group, creating resentment with those around them. (Plus, they were slightly crazy.)

 

So, where can you find fellow peers?

  • Conferences and workshops
  • Parties
  • Blogging associations
  • Social media
  • Fellow blogs

 

The best part about conferences, workshops and parties is the networking aspect. Ask IFB Conference attendees about their favorite part of attending and they will tell you it’s meeting new friends in the community, may of them who they have stayed friendly with for years! I can’t tell you how many blogging folks I’ve met that I have kept in contact with to this day. For tips on how to network at these events, we have a step-by-step guide for blogging events and, more specifically, the IFB Conference.

 

The biggest piece of advice I can give to you about finding fellow peers is this: have patience, be open, and be authentic.

 

Friendships take time to grow, and trying to rush into things will leave you feeling flash. Also, if you aren’t connecting with someone, chalk it up to different personalities and leave it be. Not everyone is meant to connect but that doesn’t mean you should give up.

 
Do you have a blogging friend that you found on your own? Has your blogging friend helped you succeed? We wanna hear!

 

Comments

  1. Avatar of Lauren - Slowburn Fastburn

    I’ve made what I like to call “virtual friends” who are bloggers, and those relationships are very inspiring. I’d love to meet up with others, I wish there were more bloggers in my area. After I graduate and move to the city, hopefully I’ll have lots of “real” friends :)

    lauren
    http://slowburnfastburn.com

  2. Avatar of Hope Howland
    Hope Howland says:

    So beyond new to this, but I can already see how it’s life-giving to cultivate more bloggin friendships… It’s refreshing, and for me helps me stay “on top of my game”… Thanks
    Hope
    hchdesigns.blogspot.com

  3. Avatar of purplebananasandfudgeballs

    I don’t have any blogger buddies or blogger friends either virtual or in real life. I don’t lament that fact as I’m not a people person, at all. I’m awkward and most times shy, and I’m not good at meeting people or getting to know anyone. I don’t hate people, but I prefer to not be around people unless I’ve had a shot or two. Also, I’m better at the written word rather than the spoken, and, as it would look quite weird to have a written convo with someone whose in my presence, I just avoid people altogether. I’ve been told that I’m standoffish or bitchy or even plain ol’ mean, but I don’t mean to be. People translate my quietness into bitchiness, without even trying to get to know me, but I guess that makes us come full circle, because I don’t like having spoken conversations. Weird, I know, and probably a trait that will strangle my budding blogging career..(shrugs) http://www.purplebananasandfudgeballs.blogspot.com

  4. Avatar of boxandbrownie

    I’d love to cultivate some blogging friendships – especially as I have moved to a new city and haven’t got any IRL friends in the same…country…anymore. It seems the Silicon Valley fashion blogging community is pretty small, though.

  5. Avatar of Nasreen
    Nasreen says:

    Right I still have yet to make some blogger friends, but I know that once I do it’ll help me grow as a blogger and make it all the more fun knowing there’s people who do what you love too! Also it’s healthy competition ;)

    http://lazyobsession.blogspot.ie/2012/12/12-days-of-christmas-jumpers.html

  6. Avatar of Jalie Chichi
    Jalie Chichi says:

    i’d love to make some blogger friends. :)

    jalie,
    http://www.jaliechichi.com

  7. Avatar of Pinksole

    I’d love to make some blogger friends but I feel like the ones in my area have been blogging way longer than me and may not be interested in having me in their circle as they are kind of well know bloggers for the area already. But it would be cool to mingle with bloggers in my area. I keep seeing event for blogger in my area, but I never know about them until I saw a pic on facebook or twitter. But in the meantime I’ll keep focusing on my blog, I’m hopeful that I would meet a beginner like myself and we can support each other.
    xo
    Rachelle
    http://pinksole.com

  8. Melissa says:

    Hi there!
    I would love to make new blogger friends online and in-person! I’ve recently moved to San Luis Obispo, CA and am looking to make new friends in the area. I thought about creating a Meetup group for bloggers here… I need to put myself out there more in the blogosphere. I recently started a blog and make time weekly to find/follow and comment on others blogs but I feel like more needs to happen.
    I agree with @pinksole about feeling like the “new kid on the blog” and am searching for opportunities close to me.

    Great topic!

    -Melissa
    littlemissorangeblossom.blogspot.com

  9. Avatar of Hey Mishka
    Hey Mishka says:

    Yes, blog-friends! This post inspired me to organize a holiday blogger meetup in Brooklyn this month. Check it out in the forum:

    NYC Holiday Blogger Meet-up! ☆ Friday, Dec 14th
    http://heartifb.com/forums/topic/nyc-holiday-blogger-meet-up-%E2%98%86-friday-dec-14th/

  10. Kristian says:

    I live in a very low population area (Wyoming, so…yeah.) so I have never met in real life another style blogger. And even things like this, if there are others around, they are in different towns several hours away. This is how it is for a lot of things in Wyoming. If the opportunity is/was there to meet other bloggers though, I think it sounds very exciting.

    That said- blogging gives us the chance to meet people even if they are not close. I joined a collective blog (Flock Together at http://flocktogetherstyle.blogspot.com), where we swap clothes and blog about the borrowed items and how we remixed them in different outfits. It has allowed for those blogging friendships. I love having met all these amazing and diverse women, and having a bit of a- support group? Network?- group of people who get the blogging thing to share this passion with.

  11. Avatar of Liz N
    Liz N says:

    I’d love to make some blogging friends here in Seattle….

    Liz @ http://www.imwildcat.blogspot.com

  12. Avatar of arash_mazinani

    I’ve made a lot of blogger friends online. But very few in real life, I’m friends with a few in my city but those that I’m closest to tend to be in the US.

    I’m always open to sharing ideas and making new friends that’s why I love Twitter so much as it’s so easy to engage in conversation with people no matter where they’re based.

  13. Emily says:

    Yes! This is so important. In the few months I’ve been blogging I’ve reached out to a lot of peers and have established some great blogging friendships. It’s helped to motivate me as well as provide a level of support for one another.

    One thing that has worked well for me is email. I’ve emailed bloggers who I think would be great to meet in person and have met up for drinks. It’s a great way to establish a connection.
    Isn’t That Charming.

  14. miss xandra says:

    i love meeting new blogger friends ~ one of my favourite parts of blogging!

    xandra ★
    p.s. don’t be shy, please say hi! :)

  15. This is soooo true! Even though I am still in the “beginning stages” of blogging (even though I’ve been blogging for about 1 yr.), I still couldn’t imagine it without the friends I’ve made and mentors I’ve found. Blogging is TOUGH, let’s be honest! Most of us work a full-time job and have “full-time lives” on top of blogging and even making it to a year is tough in itself. I would not of been able to keep going strong and keep up the passion and “believing” spirit I still have for blogging if it weren’t for the friends I’ve made.

    Listen up fellow bloggers – make fellow blogger friends is ESSENTIAL and will ultimatley make you a better blogger. Having someone who knows EXACTLY what you’ve going through as a blogger and who “understands” is irreplaceable!

  16. Arteresa says:

    I’m new to blogging and would love to make blogger friends if you are in the Los Angeles area or even virtual friends if you are not! Happy Blogging!

    http://arteresalynn.com/blog/

  17. It’s true that no man is an island, but imagine what is like to be a blogger in a small island, with only a couple of stores, having lots of stores like Forever21 (and others) who refuse to ship here, there are no workshops, there are no associations and only 1 or 2 small fashion shows a year. Fellow bloggers? I live in the middle of skeptical people who think I’m just someone who wants attention and shallow clothing buyer and a bragger. This is really hard.
    I’m just happy that I have internet and other people and foreign bloggers to (try to) engage with.

  18. Eli says:

    I’d love to connect with other bloggers. I’m pretty new to this, but the opportunity to meet new people and learn new things is really exciting. Looking forward to what the future brings :)

  19. Sandeep says:

    I always like to make and help friends. Without friends there is no value of money and happiness.

  20. Pretty says:

    Hi everyone! I would really love to find a blog buddy. I blog about chick culture. My blog is http://myprettyblog.com Please contact me to exchange blog buttons and link up! <3

  21. Victoria Huh says:

    I’m not sure if you are going to read this, but I just wanted to say that his post was really helpful! I just started a blog and had no clue how to make friends but now, I can try some of your strategies :) Thanks!

    http://victoriahuh.blogspot.kr

  22. Avatar of Shenny Kings
    Shenny Kings says:

    I’d definitely love to connect and build relationships with other bloggers, I’m quite new to this and I find it exciting and fun. I’m doing it all for the fun of it so I’m very much relaxed about the progress of it all, life’s for the purpose of fun and since all the success we want is for the sake of happiness, since I’m happy now, I already am successful :-)http://www.shennykings.com

  23. Avatar of Shenny Kings
    Shenny Kings says:

    Btw check out my blog, post a comment and drop me a link, I’ll be sure to check you out as well :-) http://www.shennykings.com

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