The first half of this quote we have heard quite often, “We are who we pretend to be.” Not so much exactly, but in other ways, like how we’re defined by our actions, or “fake it ’til you make it.” The self-help industry is based off of loads of advice telling us to control our actions by choosing who we want to be.
But what if the person we want to be isn’t the right person? I think of today, how we want to be needed and liked, so we overload their lives with activities and busywork. We are pretending to be busy. Which might be good for some people, but what about taking time to relax, to stop and smell the roses. To spend time with people near and dear? What about building real relationships?
It’s fantastic that we as humans have the ability to shape our experiences by pretending, and making conscious choices… but at the same time we must be careful of who we pretend to be. If the goal is to be happy and fulfilled, maybe the path that everyone else is taking isn’t right for us. Just a thought.