When you approach a bank for a loan to set up your business one of the questions you are asked is whether you have the support of your partner. I used to think that question was irrelevant after all it is you running the business not your partner right? Well actually wrong; the support of your partner when setting up a venture is crucial and to an extent invaluable. For it is their words of support and encouragement that will get you through the hard times and the same goes for your blog. What I have noticed through my conversation with fellow bloggers is how much support they receive from their partners. It can be anything from ideas or encouragement or creative support such as taking pictures, redesigning the blog. It really does show how significant blogs have become in our lives.
The hands on guy
Jenny Hayden, 24 is based in Sussex and works as a Marketing Assistant. She has three blogs; The Style PA, The Style PA at Home and The Style for Men which she has been running for a year and a half. Her blogs offer hints, tips, tricks and trends for effortless style.
“My boyfriend is a software developer and we are both very much into the internet and computers. I needed a project and he actually suggested I start a blog as a way to gain experience in online marketing. I took it further than I ever thought I would, and now have three blogs all worked on in my spare time. When I want to tweak designs or fix things I have an internet whiz on hand to help out. My boyfriend also helps when I am testing out or reviewing products for my blog, The Style PA for Men. I know that he will give me an honest opinion. Not only did he give me the idea to start blogging in the first place, he continues to support me as my blogs grow.”
The sounding board
Lisa Long, 39 is based in London and works as a Freelance stylist/journalist/consultant. She has been running Disneyrollergirl for two years and the blog is her observations and opinions on fashion, lifestyle trends and popular culture. It's a way for her to articulate and make sense of all the thoughts that clutter up her head and she also use it as research for her journalism and consultancy work.
“My boyfriend is brilliant when it comes to my blog. Sometimes I think he wishes he had a blog because he's always bringing things to my attention and finishing with ‘that might be good for your blog'… He reads it every few days and will give me feedback and he actually takes it very seriously and recognises that it has become instrumental for work. I don't think he realises how much research goes into it though. I spend more time catching up on blog reading (and that includes big blogs like Fashionista as well as the independents) than I do watching telly and he probably sees me in front of the laptop and thinks I'm on Facebook. I think it's hard for a non-blogger to realise that writing the copy is the quick part but editing it, uploading photos, reading blogs and commenting is the time-consuming part. On the other hand, like with anything on the internet, it's really easy to get sucked in a vortex so he's pretty good at dragging me away when I've been blogging for too long.”
The fellow blogger
Ashanti OMkar, in her early 30s is based in London and works as a Print/Broadcast Journalist, Blogger. She has been managing http://www.omkari.wordpress.com for five years and her blog is about film, music, observations, musings, reflections, poetry, articles about British Asians, South India, South Asia. She also has a music blog called – http://www.blip.fm/ashantiomkar.
“In fact, it was my partner who got me into blogging – he took it up as a way of posting his amazing photography and also venting his ruminations on life. He encouraged me to deviate from the journalism aspect and to blog, the latest incarnation of this is on Twitter where we both micro-blog. I share insights, articles and he usually proofreads for me and vice-versa – we both support each other and our work in many different ways and the blogging aspect is one of them. I share his photos on my blog, from time to time and sometimes, I am inspired to write a poem based on a photo he's taken. He is my biggest critic and as he's a media buff, I soak up as much of his wisdom as I can. As a mixed couple, we learn a lot about each other through our blogs – me on the South Asian side and him on the African side. It is a topic of conversation, where as a freelance I work from home mainly and he works in an office during the day, as a picture editor.
We end up calling each other during the day when we've put up something new and usually, after he gets home, one of our first topics of conversation ala ‘how was your day' would pertain to ‘so I read your latest Tweet and laughed'. It may sound a bit weird, but we send messages to each other through Twitter from time to time, even though we talk a lot during the day, and he tends to have a lot of fans of his photography, who pass messages through me, mainly done through the blog medium so I don't forget to tell him! Once it's written, it's remembered, I feel. His blog is http://www.aworan.com and his twitter is http://www.twitter.com/pixgremlin.” My twitter is http://www.twitter.com/ashantiomkar
Well me personally, I do not have a partner but I do have a close male friend who gives me a lot of support with my blog and listens to me when I harp on about various blogger related stories. Ashley Robison aka AsheMischief who manages Dramatis Personae identifies with this.
“My fella (he's not actually my boyfriend, though people consider him it) is pretty supportive. He's not super engaged regularly with my blog but does listen when I talk about it and keeps up with the bloggers I'm friendly with and the stories I tell about them. He's supportive and offers suggestions on setting goals, ways to monetize my blog, issues that come and discussions I may find with other blogs.
He's in the online gaming community though, so I think he understands the dynamics of online communities, the roles we have in them and how they impact our life, which is really useful. He teases me a bit about my use of Twitter often, but I think he understands that it's kind of a forum for me. He never discourages me from posting while we're watching TV and understands when I have goals for my blog that I need to meet.”