Crash Course in Blogger Etiquette


This post is by Leia of HiFashion

I wish someone had given me a crash course on blogging etiquette when I first started blogging! Here are some tips I’ve picked up along the way. Please remember that these are all based on my personal opinion and not all of them are hard and fast rules.


Always, always, always give credit where it is due.



  • If you are using a picture taken by someone else, make sure it’s okay to use it.
  • Add a link to where the picture has come from.
  • Do not steal bandwidth! Download the image onto your computer and re-upload it using your blog software or an image hosting site.




  • As with pictures, make sure you have the right to reproduce text. Even paraphrasing ideas is a form of plagiarism, so always inform your readers if you have gotten ideas from someone else.



Fellow bloggers love to receive e-mails from their readers. But there are a few things to keep in mind when writing to someone…


  • Make sure you remember whom you have contacted and what you have contacted them about. I know it sounds elementary, but we once had an e-mail (addressed en masse) from a new blogger who wanted to be added to our blogroll. A month later, the same blogger wrote us pretty much the exact same e-mail! If he/she had taken the time to check our blog, he/she would know that we had already done so a month ago, when first asked.
  • Don’t send mass messages. If you are taking the time to write to someone, make it personal, and address them by name or at least blog name. I know that if something isn’t addressed to me personally, I am much less likely to take it seriously. Also, you are probably less likely to send the same e-mail twice if you take the time to make it personal!
  • Give and receive. I honestly don’t mind helping someone out – especially new bloggers – because I know how clueless I felt sometimes when I first started blogging. But sending multiple e-mails to someone asking for help and advice is a little bit too much, especially when it’s clear you just want them to help you with promoting your own blog. It’s fine to ask for help, but make sure you are giving something back, even if it’s just in a small way. That may mean just saying ‘thank you for your time and patience,’ or perhaps mentioning on your blog that someone provided you with valuable advice.




  • Comment back: If someone comments on your blog, make time to visit their blog. It’s nice to get to know your readers. If you have time, leave them a comment, too (you know that warm fuzzy feeling you get inside when someone leaves you a comment? Rack up some good karma by doing the same for someone else!) If they ask you a question, see if you can e-mail them to answer it, or visit their blog and answer it there. I read so many blogs that I don’t always remember to check back to see if someone responded to my question – it’s much more efficient if you answer it in a place that they are sure to see!
  • Spam filters: I hate them. If I have to go through a complicated process of filling in a word verification, I often decide not to leave a comment. And I really see no point in having word verifications as well as moderating comments! There are so many blogs that get thousands of hits and comments every day that do not choose to activate their spam filters. I recommend only using yours if you have already had problems with spam comments. Note from Editor: WordPress's Akismet spam filter is quite effective without using word verification.
  • Make comments accessible to everyone. Again, if I am trying to comment on a blog and it only allows comments from certain people (for example, only people with a Google account), it can make me change my mind about leaving a comment at all. I have two Google accounts (a personal one as well as a blog account shared with my co-blogger, Sherin) and I don’t like having to sign out and sign in again or switch browsers just to leave a quick comment. This can also diminish your chances of getting feedback from readers who don’t have Google accounts. Again, I would recommend increasing your privacy only if you have had spam commenters or other problems in the past, but if not, you should allow as many people as possible to comment on your blog.
  • Negative comments (giving them). I usually go by this rule: If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. No one expects you to like or agree with everything you read in the blogosphere. We all have different tastes and styles; it is completely normal to dislike someone else’s outfit or post. That doesn’t mean you have to be hurtful. Constructive criticism and differing opinions are welcome, but there is a nice way to say something and a rude way to say something. If you can’t figure out how to say it nicely, don’t say anything at all.For example: You see someone wearing an outfit you don’t like because you think it’s too revealing. Here are some polite ways to deal with this:
    • Don’t leave a comment at all.
    • Is there anything you like about the outfit? Focus on that. You could say, “Nice shoes!” for example.
    • Do you simply have to mention the short hemline? Try this: “Wow, you are so bold for being able to wear something so short in public! I could never pull that off myself, but it’s great to see people taking risks like that.”
    • You may be tempted to say, “Ugh, how trashy. How can you leave the house wearing that sort of thing?” Please don’t say this or anything similar. It’s just not nice. You wouldn't walk into someone’s house and criticise their belongings, so don’t visit their blog and leave rude comments about their attire or opinions.
    • Don’t leave negative, Anonymous comments. If you are going to say something, own up to it. If you are too afraid of saying something that can be traced back to you, don’t say it.

  • Negative comments (receiving them). I am lucky in that our blog, HiFashion, has not yet received any negative comments, but these are my thoughts on them.
    • A person who writes a negative comment is usually just jealous. I know it’s hard to take a negative comment as a compliment, but if someone has taken the time to let you know how they feel, they must feel quite strongly about the issue.
    • If you receive one, you should delete it or ignore it.
    • If the commenter has left a name or a blog URL, you can try to track them down and explain that the comment was hurtful. If you receive yet more negative feedback, consider barring their I.P. address from your blog.
    • If negative comments cease to stop, address the issue on your blog. Consider disabling comments altogether if the issue really gets out of hand.





I don’t consider it good blog etiquette to force your readers to listen to your music (especially if it is loud or has vulgar language). Keep in mind that everyone has different tastes! If I click on a blog and am bombarded with music, I often close it without reading any further, and I know I’m not the only one who does so. There are multiple reasons why I do this:


  • I am often listening to my own music or watching the news while browsing through blogs;
  • My internet connection is sometimes slow, so the music comes through in broken bits and pieces, making it very annoying to listen to;
  • I sometimes open multiple blogs at once. Imagine if they all played music simultaneously! This has happened to me before, and I assure you, it is not a pleasant experience.


Don’t get me wrong, I love music, and I see nothing wrong with sharing songs with your readers. But you ought to do this respectfully. You can share music by adding a music player which readers can choose to switch on; embedding YouTube

There you have it – my ideas on being a polite, respectful blogger! Do you agree with my points? Why or why not? What would you add to this list?

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163 Responses

  1. Ashe Mischief

    Leia, I absolutely agree with all of these! Though I can be slow and bad about many of them (like remembering to comment more often on others’ blogs), they’re all very valid points.

    Like you, I do get dissuaded from leaving comments when my name/url is not an option– when I have to sign in with goggle for example. I think that’s particularly overlooked often, but it can make a world of difference…
    .-= Ashe Mischief´s last blog ..IFB Presents: Links á la Mode =-.

  2. KB

    Great post, I have removed the spam filter as of now! I never had a problem anyway…
    .-= KB´s last blog ..Another day, another fashion capital =-.

  3. Andrea

    Great points! Super helfpul info about commenting. I recently removed the login requirement on my site for the reasons you state above. Couldn’t agree more – I rarely comment on a blog that makes me jump through hoops to do it.
    .-= Andrea´s last blog ..Top Ten Drugstore Beauty Buys =-.

  4. stylefyles

    I definitely agree with these points! What irks me the most is the music. It’s the worst when you’re at work and you open a new blog only to have music blast from the computer. The most frustrating is when you generally want to view the page. Obviously you can always mute your computer, but in my opinion, web sites should have an optional music cue at the top of the page. It’s just good etiquette. Then the reader can turn the music on if she pleases.

    And, the word verifications definitely make it tricky for comments. Sometimes if I’m on a computer that I don’t normally use, I have trouble signing into different accounts. I’m not willing to spend five minutes trying to figure out how to leave a comment, even if it’s something that I really like.

    Thanks for the post!
    .-= stylefyles´s last blog ..The Red Ribbon =-.

  5. Jessica

    Well said! I had a music playlist on my blog (still there) but I never thought about the autoplay even being an option to turn off! a couple weeks ago I realized this and fixed it, I felt much better that the playlist didn’t hit any reader in a negative frame of mind.

    Important NOTE: many blog readers, read while at work…they may not want their coworkers to know they are “Bringing Sexy Back” instead of filing papers!
    .-= Jessica´s last blog ..Moda Italiana =-.

  6. grechen

    really good points – i like that you mention attributing ideas as well as text – it’s so important to credit where you got an idea from, or where you first saw something. i always credit the blog where i first saw something, or if i get an idea for an article i also attribute the original blog…it just feels “right” to me…

    and AMEN about the akismet and NOT using word verification. i have to really really really really really love you to comment on your blog if you have word verification and/or you DON’T have comment luv.
    .-= grechen´s last blog ..personality + passion = great blog =-.

  7. Michelle

    I agree with all of this! I don’t have as much of a problem with word verification as some people, I understand it. I had a hard time getting Akismet to word properly for me, so I use a different spam blocker – but it doesn’t require word verification and I haven’t had any complaints so far. If something requires Google sign in, yeah, I usually don’t bother with it. Music is a huge no-no for me, if I go to a blog and it immediately starts playing music, I’m very likely to close the window and never go back.

    I also have another one to add re: commenting on other’s blogs. Like Hannah mentioned, leaving comments that aren’t useful and are just things like “wow cute outfit” are annoying…but the worst thing is when people leave copies of their URL at the end of the comment. I can understand leaving your URL at the end of a comment IF there’s no entry for URL in the form. But I recently saw a comment on someone elses’ blog that just consisted of something akin to “cute outfit, nice shoes” and then six – I kid you not, six! – copies of their blog URL. If someone left a comment like that on my site, I would be very tempted to mark it as spam & would probably do so in the end.
    .-= Michelle´s last blog ..Musical Musings =-.

  8. Hannah

    tooootally agree with the music one – sorry people who have music, i might actually love yours but just not while i’m listening to something else!

    i’d like to add one more thing – try to leave meaningful comments, don’t just write on someone elses blog “cool – check out my blog it’s got outfit pics and blah blah blah…”

    .-= Hannah´s last blog ..Shine on you crazy diamond =-.

  9. Miss Elle

    Oh, this is a GREAT article! I completely agree with everything you mentioned. Particularly the commenting ability items – if I have to jump through hoops to comment on your blog, chances are good other people are JUST as dissuaded from interacting with you, as well… And that means your blog will probably fail. 🙁

    ALSO, I would LOVE to add my biggest “blogger etiquette fail”…


    Don’t do it! Never do it! People (like me, and MANY others…) will completely unsubscribe from your blog altogether if the feed is partial. Why would you limit the content obviously to up your site traffic? It’s completely rude, selfish, and the antithesis if blogging (sharing information).
    .-= Miss Elle´s last blog ..B&B Loves Shabby Apple =-.

  10. WendyB

    This should be mandatory reading! LOVE IT! The only thing that I disagree with is word verification + moderation. I would have to delete 10 or more spam messages at a time. WordPress is good at sending stuff to the spam folder (sometimes legit stuff) but not everything, and seeing that crap annoys me. But at least I have entertaining word verifications 🙂
    .-= WendyB´s last blog ..Molly Will Be Missed =-.

  11. glittah

    Miss Elle: well said! I get so annoyed with partial RSS feeds, it’s so unpractical… people are still reading blogs even if it doesn’t show on the visit counter.

    and great article Leia! I definitely need to be more of a participant as well,I know I do… time is such a pain though, isn’t it?

    .-= glittah´s last blog ..The Longer Length + SHOWstudio =-.

  12. Eyeliah

    I must say I agree with everything that you said, great job. plus I think you covered everything….. I’m trying to think of additional tips………………… maybe I’ll come back with some later! the girls have it with the comments with your extra blog url, that already comes up if we click on your name!! How many times do you need it to be in there?
    Wendy is right, required reading for all bloggers! lol
    .-= Eyeliah´s last blog ..Katrina =-.

  13. elena d.

    what a great post! thank you…i am recently new to the blogger world…and am just absorbing everything i can…
    i will need to look into allowing comments from other venues (other than say…a google account)

    i so agree with you about the music! i love music myself…but find that i close down many blogs w/music…because i just have a hard time reading and trying not to pay attention to the words of the song…

    and as far as the comments go…yeah…i am a big proponent…because i love how i feel when someone leaves me a comment or two…
    .-= elena d.´s last blog ..tie one on… =-.

  14. Ashley

    Wow I guess I’m not that picky after all! I don’t mind when people have word verification, I still will leave a comment without thinking twice. Also, I don’t care if you leave a link to your blog at the end of your comment, just as long as there is a comment first (not just spam). And I love getting all (real) comments, even if they do just say “nice dress!” – at least that reader took the time to comment in a positive way. Gotta appreciate that!
    .-= Ashley´s last blog ..Mary-Kate and Ashley talk fashion =-.

  15. Elizabeth Marie

    This is such a great post. I’ve read others that are snarky or rude…but this is just plain and simple to the point! I wish I had had something like this when I first started!! It’s a great reminder for us all! XO

  16. Retro Chick

    Oh, my comment suddenly published itself, weird!

    I was going to say I don’t mind word verification, but I do get put off my blogs that won’t let me leave a Name/URL comment. My Google account is linked to my old blogger blog that is no longer in use so I don’t want to leave it as a comment!
    .-= Retro Chick´s last blog ..What Are You Wearing? Black on Black =-.

  17. Cafe Fashionista

    This is absolutely wonderful, Leia! You touched on all of the most important points related to Blogger Etiquette. I’m especially pleased with the portion about music. Everyone has their own tastes in what they listen to musically, and I prefer if blogs either don’t feature music, or at least give you the option to stop and start it as you please. 🙂
    .-= Cafe Fashionista´s last blog ..Smitten Saturday =-.

  18. Leia

    Thank you all for your kind, positive comments! I am off to visit all of your blogs to get to know you – because it is, of course, good Blogger Etiquette! 😉
    .-= Leia´s last blog ..Lazy Saturday Links =-.

  19. Anna Jane

    Thank you for sharing. Some of these points are so simple, yet so easily forgotten amongst the hype of blogging. As a fairly new fashion blogger, I’ll be referring to this article in the future, so thanks once again! x
    .-= Anna Jane´s last blog ..Follow my blog with bloglovin =-.

  20. Pearl Westwood

    Really useful post, I was so lost when I first started blogging, but I guess most things are just down to personal preference. I dont mind spam filters or music I just mute my laptop. I do like that you took the time to explain how to be positive as I personally have been shocked by negative comments left on other peoples blogs, it is just so unnecessary! I appreciate all comments, even brief ones, sometimes it can be hard to say anything but ‘great dress’. I also actually prefer people to leave their URL on the bottom of a comment so I dont have to go check throught their blogger profile to see if they even have a blog. I do find it a bit rude to paste the URL more than once though!
    Thanks for the post, I will forward it on to new bloggers looking for help!
    .-= Pearl Westwood´s last blog ..‘Over the Top’ Blog award! =-.

  21. Technosunshine

    I had never though about how annoying the music is. I now set my music play so that it isn’t automatic, so readers can listen if they want… thanks for pointing that out. the volume on my computer is normally off when i blog so I don’t notice music.
    .-= Technosunshine´s last blog ..Brown Boots =-.

  22. Sundari Carmody

    Hi, great advice for everyone. I don’t usually mind word verification (although it is an extra nuisance) but I have had trouble commenting on some typepad blogs and have just given up altogether!

    I didn’t realise how rude it was to link pictures rather than downloading it yourself. Is it still bad to link directly from the flickr?
    .-= Sundari Carmody´s last blog ..Marks and Remains =-.

  23. Jill

    I’m so glad WendyB directed me to this. I thought having my playlist automatically play might be annoying. Turns out, it is! I was too lazy to change it, but today I have. Thanks for this post!

  24. Steff

    Thanks for this! I just removed the word verification thing for comments. I will still keep comment moderation on though because of a very very unkind anonymous person who was threatening to sue me in their comment when I left the comments entirely open…
    .-= Steff´s last blog ..Tilly-dee-dee =-.

  25. Sonja

    Excellent article! I especially like your points about reciprocating with comments and about music. I hate when I go to a site and get assaulted with a wall of sound, especially if I’m working in an office. I love music but I prefer to choose when I’m going to listen to it. 😉

  26. Grace

    Could not agree more! Especially about the music! I usually am listening to my own music and it gets tiresome having to close out blogs or search for the off button on their playlists.

    Love Grace.
    .-= Grace´s last blog ..This Monkey’s Gone Too Heaven =-.

  27. Prêt-à-Porter P

    i dont like when music automatically plays. it’s pretty annoying. also who knows some people may be reading this stuff while at work, imagine if some loud music just started playing!!!!

  28. Fabulous Finds Gal

    Great post!

    Ok, I’ve deleted my music… Good points all, so thanks for letting me see someone else’s point of view.

    I have started getting comments that are basically mini-posts or a stock comment going to everyone. And, of course, the blantant self-promotion comments. Please be authentic.

    I agree, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything. Move to the next blog….

    I did geceive one “not kind” comment. Thus, I leave my filter on. And, of course, the person didn’t have the guts to leave their name. Weak.

    Thank you for laying down the law of good blog manners.
    Fabulous Finds Gal
    .-= Fabulous Finds Gal´s last blog ..The Power of a Blog~ Powerhouse Mother and Daugher Blogger Team, Atlantis Home and Sea of Shoes, Featured in Vogue Magazine and =-.

  29. Franca

    Great points! I never actually thought that word verification would annoy anyone, but you’re right, what’s the point if you moderate your comments anyway? I’ve switched the word verification off and will see how it goes.

    and I COMPLETELY agree with the music thing!
    .-= Franca´s last blog ..Mr Scruff tea bags =-.

  30. Renee

    I agree with all of this! Thanks for the great article! I think that innocuous comments like, “Nice shoes” are totally fine, but I agree that meaningful comments are the best. At this point, though, I’m happy for any comments I can get!
    .-= Renee´s last blog ..I’m joining the 21st century…. =-.

  31. smilla

    Thanks for this post! I´m a beginner and it´s not easy to understand how to move in the blogosphere..
    Most of the things you mentioned are just like the real-life- being nice to other people, this should be normal…and so I think I did well in the last weeks. But anyway its hard to get into the crowd. Today I ve red in a blog blogging is for connecting and dialogue. Thats the point…I´m looking forward not to play alone anymore 🙂
    And I will switchoff the word verification…curious what will happen.
    set the sails…
    .-= smilla´s last blog ..Pinke Phase =-.

  32. Little Red

    Fantastic post, Leia! You definitely touched on all the important aspects of blogger etiquette! I always make sure to comment people back and say only nice things. There’s never any reason to say mean things and cause Internet drama.
    .-= Little Red´s last blog ..Bundled Up =-.

  33. A

    Well said, Leia!
    I agree wholeheartedly with the music thing. I hate this on a blog and will just leave rather than try to work out where the control to turn the music off is located on the blog. It really is that annoying.
    .-= A´s last blog ..Monthly Magic: October =-.

  34. modern hippie

    Wow, music? Really? I keep my mute button on most of the time so I guess I’ve never had a problem with that, I wonder what funky stuff I’m missing…

    I certainly agree with leaving meaningful comments though, gotta say most often there are such good comments before mine that I don’t want to reinvent the wheel. Often giving kudos or way to go girl just seems appropriate.

    As for comment moderation and word verification, even though I’m very new I just had to do something I was getting spam out the keester! I’m using WP SpamFree now, stopped spam like shazam!

    Thanks Ladies for all your comments and suggestions and of course thank you Leia for another great post!
    .-= modern hippie´s last blog ..Butterfly Effect Grand Opening is a Huge Success! =-.

  35. julia

    great pointers; there are some things that I forgot about that you reminded me to do! BTW I agree, Askimet is a great spam blocker!
    .-= julia´s last blog ..Our Sample Sale & Pop Up Store Picks! =-.

  36. Kimberly

    Great blog post Leia and definitely a must read for all those new to blogging/social media. You have some great tips and I agree with you 100 per cent, re: refrain from putting a music player on your blog.
    .-= Kimberly´s last blog ..Fashion bloggers rock the Dolce & Gabbana show at Milan fashion week =-.

  37. simplyleah

    great advice! very helpful!
    .-= simplyleah´s last blog! =-.

  38. jaunty magpie

    These are really helpful tips, thank you for listing them. The blog I have is still relatively new, so I’m still navigating these mysterious waters, so any advice is always welcome and appreciated.
    .-= jaunty magpie´s last blog .. =-.

  39. Jess

    I have a questions for fashion bloggers out there. What is the proper protocol for promoting a product to bloggers? I have a new fashion software application that I want to spread the word about. I don’t want to be a pest but I also don’t want my messages to be cast off as spam.

  40. Michelle B.

    I was just directed to your blog from Project Pretty. I enjoyed the post and you made a lot of good points. I think I will check back more often now!

  41. Bonnie

    I found this article via One Pretty Thing and I have to thank you for writing it and I should thank Rachel for linking. There are things in here I have kicked myself a time or two for NOT doing. I haven’t had to eat crow yet (Praise God!) but I can see it coming someday if I don’t keep the basics in mind. It really is just common sense, isn’t it? Do unto others… and don’t steal? Again, thanks for writing the post!

  42. Jan

    You’re a genius! I started reading mostly to make sure you mentioned music (my pet peeve–especially because even if you can scroll down and shut it off quickly, it comes back as soon as you navigate to another page of the blog!) but I got some good advice for myself along the way. Thanks!

  43. K

    question re: the bandwidth and pictures — why is that bad? someone advised me when i started my blog to host as little as possible on my site and always use the image URL if possible. i always do that for flickr. (i used to do the “blog this” option directly from flickr, which i think also does the image URL reference, but stopped because i didn’t like that “blog this” resulted in it automatically posting a published post on my blog, with no opportunity for me to add text or anything else except after it was published…

    anyway — just curious if you mean re: flickr and creative commons posts. thanks!

    • Steffi Schütze

      Hotlinking images can be bad both for you and the person whos server the images are on.

      for the person who hosts the files: Some webhosts offer limited bandwiths, if the bandwith is exceded they either charge their client extra or no one can reach the site for a certain time. If you embed an image or movie or audio file that is hosted from their site you automatically increase their bandwith use and thereby risk that they get charged or taken off-line. So that is not very nice.
      This of course is not a problem with using flickr like you described.

      for you: Sometimes the original host deletes or moves the files you are linking to and there will be a broken pic in your blog – not very sexy.
      There are even people who get so angry about hotlinking they dont delete but change the image to something bad – and suddenly you have porn pics in your blog.

      I hope that helps!
      .-= Steffi Schütze´s last blog ..Balmain rtw Fall/Winter 2010 =-.

  44. HEK

    Great advice! I totally agree with ll of them. And I think that bloggers should always be nice to each other, let’s keep the blogosphee happy:)

  45. The Very Subjective

    amen! (about the music part, especially).

    i too have had the experience, when i open more than one blog, and they all have music gadgets in them, starting to play all at once.

    and then i’m trying to find WHERE DOES IT COME FROM, because some bloggers have more than one music player thingy in their blogs.

    if i can’t find it in, like, three seconds, i press that little cross and get out of there immediately, because it honestly feels like an attack from the bush, and not like welcoming chores as it might have been intended..
    .-= The Very Subjective´s last blog ..: The Thing About Photoshop =-.

  46. vinda

    great article as usual. i really enjoyed reading it. i agree with everything you wrote in the context of getting and receiving negative comments and the music–i think it’s annoying if i am forced to listen to one’s preference of music while browsing their site. i am more like you; i listen to my own music while browsing around 🙂
    .-= vinda´s last blog ..pretty reckless. =-.

  47. Mathilde

    Totally agree on the music player thing – is so annoying trying to decipher which of the many tabs is causing the horrible noise! And with comments as well – for some reason lots of blogspot doesn’t recognise my Typepad or Google accounts and so if people have security I just can’t leave a comment at all!
    .-= Mathilde´s last blog ..society for the advancement of people of ELEGANCE =-.

  48. barcelonette

    Hey! thank you for this recommendations, I agree with you in many of them specially with the spam filter and music when visiting other blogs.
    .-= barcelonette´s last blog ..MILAN FW 2010 REVIEW =-.

  49. Katy Noelle

    OH! I forgot to say that I love – just love the picture at the top of this post!

  50. Ana

    thank you so much for your advice, I just started blogging and frankly I need all the help I can get!

  51. Bella Q

    oh this is so good. you’ve listed 3 of the pet peeves I have with some blogs: music, captcha AND image stealing. Ok, not always stealing but I have zero respect for the blogger who refuses to credit her sources. Especially when she is merely lifting pics from a more established blogger and using them without links or credits. I’m dealing with that issue now, and in spite of numerous requests and offers to help her, insists of pics appropriation. I want to send her this link and hope she gets the hint.

  52. Irene

    Thank you so much for posting this!!! We bloggers need an etiquette-reminder every day 😀
    Our problem is that there are way too many blogs right now,that’s way everyone who just started running a blog (like me) is going “help me, help me” 😀 but we really have to know the boarders.
    Music. I totally agree. It’s better to pay more attention to your post and make it better than to look for new music list for your blog.
    thank you!

  53. AnthonyCarmen

    Great article.. I think it’s important to note that we can all help out each other to make our blogs successful! Hopefully when we reach out, we receive.

  54. Kaden Hayes

    spam blockers are really needed these days because you will always get spam from e-mails and on your facebook account too.;~.

  55. Felicia Rufini

    Hi Leia,

    I am just setting up my own blog and wanted to thank you – it is indeed a world on its own and your advice is very welcome!


  56. Alterations Needed

    Ugh…the email point is so true. I just had a marathon email exchange with someone asking how to start a blog. The emails kept harping on how to set up affiliate programs and make money…one track mind much? I finally gave up on responding. I’m usually happy to give advice, but when the emails keep asking to pick my brain without anything in return, I had to give up.

    • FreyaGrace

      This tips are so useful – especially the ones regarding advice from experienced bloggers. I’ve just started out and have shied away from self promotion – resulting in very few blog visits. I’m going to make sure to reciprocate any help or tips. Thanks 🙂

  57. Nicola

    Thanks for the tips, I just disabled word verification for comments on my blog because you’re right, I don’t really need it and it’s just adding a barrier stopping easy commenting on my posts.

  58. Claire

    Thank you for this, I am brand new to the world of blogging and very grateful for any help/advice/words of wisdom that can come my way!

  59. Jing Pei

    Fantastic post. I just started my blog two days ago, and I still have some other questions.

    For one, is it rude to drop links even if you do make a comment before doing so? People have done so on my blog, and I find it slightly annoying because they say very little, yet with the link, it feels like they are demanding me to visit their blog just because of a simple two or three word comment. Usually I find myself respecting that blog less–like it can’t possibly have good content if they are just willing to “spam” anyone including a new blogger like me!

    Also I do try to comment back on my commenters’ blog posts, but sometimes I end up commenting one on a few days back–is this alright or should I keep to commenting on newer posts?

  60. Simone

    I have to say, I think you need to be careful with the backhanded compliment thing (ie: with the short hemline example). Even if you’re sincere in saying something like that, it can come off as backhanded if you’re not careful with your phrasing. I think that most people can see through that and at times, it can sound pretty catty.

    I have never understood why people feel so strongly about the alleged “right” to leave negative feedback on a style blog. I think it’s best not to comment negatively at all, but if you ABSOLUTELY MUST say something, I think something direct and polite such as “I like that top but not with that skirt. I’d love to see you work it in another outfit” or something along those lines will suffice.

  61. Isabel

    This list is really useful.
    I’m so glad someone wrote this.
    And I completely agree with the music thing.

  62. shallowmallow

    Great tips.

    Akismet can be a little overzealous on the spam filtering. For instance it won’t allow any comments made form behind a proxy/firewall which knocks out a lot of commenteres too.

    This may be configurable (haven’t looked into using the plug in after it kept me from posting some comments) but something to look out for when considering the plug in.

  63. Kristena

    I’ve been blogging for a few years now, but I really appreciate this crash-course refresher! I seriously need to get better at writing back to my commenters. Thank you. 🙂

  64. Hippie Fruit

    Great article! Thanks for sharing!! SOo right about the music aspect… can’t stand it to be completly frank ! Especially when I am in my element of reading reading through blogs and pop goes the music ! Not cool! xx Hippie Fruit

  65. franklyn

    Thanks! your advice has confirmed things I had already suspected and reassured me that there is a lot of lovely people out there, who actually want other people to do well, what a refreshing thought! xxx take care.x

  66. The Compassion Fashion Project

    Great tips! I started what I call an “experimental” blog a couple years ago and learned so much just by playing around with it. I never promoted the blog, I only got a feel for what was out there and all the opportunities available to bloggers (blogheads as I say). It was a nice way to start out and so now that I was ready to take on a serious project, I felt good about it…just an idea for those out there who are just starting out. You don’t want to put out the wrong vibe right from the start and put people off. I totally get what you’re saying.

  67. Alyce

    Hi Leia!

    Thnaks for all the great tips! I’ve just started my own fashion blog so I found them really helpful and have already made some changes (eg. getting rid of word verification on comments).


  68. Bonnie Phan

    Ah, this is a great and informative post that will help many bloggers or even just readers. I think one thing I would add to the list is under the comments section. If you’re going to leave a comment, make sure you fully understand the post and that you actually READ the entire thing, then make a MEANINGFUL comment that relates to the post. There’s not worse than receiving an e-mail that says “new comment” and you get all excited.. and the comment simple says “nice post, check out my blog too.” Meaningful comments are key, no blogger wants a generic comment that was only made to market the commenter’s own blog.


  69. Tea For Two

    I agree with a lot of your points but I’m not really with you on this idea of deleting negative comments or putting them down to jealousy. I think being a serious blogger who wants to approach it with maturity involves accepting negative feedback at times.

    Obviously out-and-out name calling (of the kind sometimes seen at Fashion Toast, for example) is unacceptable, but I think once your blog gets any kind of regular readership people will reserve the right to state when they feel something isn’t working or constructively criticise how you’re running your show and it should be taken on board if you want to improve and demonstrate your willingness to accept other points of view.

    I visited a blog recently where a reader was making a complaint about a shady sponsor. She’d been promoting their products and advertising their site on her blog but had decided to actually buy a few pieces for herself and realised they were completely sub-standard, so she was warning her readers and saying she wanted to cut all ties. My response was that although it’s a good thing to make her readers aware, what she SHOULD have done is tried samples from the company BEFORE accepting some lovely, hard cash to advertise for them and that it’s probably a lesson for the future. That might be seen as a negative comment but to me it’s well worth saying and I wouldn’t want it to be taken the wrong way or as though it was said out of jealousy.

  70. Tikkitiboo

    Thanks for the tips guys! As a brand new blogger it’s really nice to come somewhere and get the low down on how to do it properly and ‘politely’ (meaning how not to annoy other bloggers) thanks for the resource 🙂
    Tikkitiboo + Ahka Blog

  71. Jenya

    I definitely like this article – I am glad that I came across this article when I am just starting out! Since I am just starting out, I particularly like suggestion to disable the spam filter. I’d love to know if there are there good articles to help with ideas for the photography aspect of things.

  72. Ellen

    While you made some good points, I disagree with your opinion on negative comments, especially for fashion blogs. I’m not advocating insulting the blogger but leaving the bad in with the good makes me trust that person more. I read through all the comments on this post and becaue they are all basically complimentary, it makes me wonder what you deleted. Furthermore, sometimes you can learn a lot about multiple sides of a topic from the comments that don’t agree with the blogger. I don’t think being rude or malicious is the answer but opening an active dialogue between readers is to be encouraged, isn’t it?

    • Jessica Conatser

      Hi Ellen,

      I definitely believe you have a great point and, yes, I think blogs should be an open and active place for dialogue between readers. However, the IFB team makes it a point to publish all comments whether the comment be negative or positive. While we don’t appreciate rude commentary, we rarely moderate it to the point that it isn’t published unless the comment is highly offensive or malicious. We then make a point to reach out to the commenter to understand more about why they feel the way they do in order to be fair. Thanks for speaking out about this topic, I think it’s an important one.


    • Leia

      Hi Ellen,

      I wrote this article, and I haven’t deleted any comments, negative or otherwise. I don’t
      delete comments (except for spam) on my personal blog, either, and I appreciate
      constructive criticism. The only thing I don’t agree with is downright rudeness – luckily, it’s rare in the blogosphere! 🙂

  73. Philippa

    Great tips I never even thought of! My spam filter is now removed and i’ll remember to comment back on their own page 🙂 Cheers! xx

  74. Chaplinnn

    Great article. Recently I was receiving many negative anonymous ‘asks’ on Tumblr. I was able to track the IP and called the person out and it stopped. While I normally try to avoid that type of negativity, it has been nice to not have to deal with it.

  75. Chaplinnn

    Oh and as a side note, I regularly TinEye my images and do google searches and it is so insulting to see blogs use images from my Flickr without contacting me first! While I appreciate the linkage back, I think many of us know the same feeling — thank you for including this point in the article!

  76. michelle

    very helpful tip 🙂
    (also I use youtub embed so people can choose to paly my first singles or not in their decisions I don’t want to force them)

  77. Poutine and Prada

    These are all great tips. It’s tough to stay motivated as a new blogger, these are all good ideas to help increase traffic to your blog while maintaining good manners.

  78. saks2salvation

    This article is worth a re-read time and time again. This is solid blogging advice and as a newbie blogger, I bookmark these pages to keep me focused when I write. Thanks for the valuable information!

  79. Emily

    This is fantastic advice! Great way to reduce tension, remain composed but approachable, and keep yourself accessible.

  80. TrendWreck

    I couldn’t agree more! I can’t stand to see content that hasn’t been given credit! It’s happened to me several times. Great tips!

  81. Rich Girl

    Awesome points! I agree on all of them, especially about commenting. It also frustrates me when some blogs only allow comments through Google accounts or Facebook. I think is a bad etiquette to limit your readers.