How Blogging Became My Boyfriend

Over here at IFB, we're big fans of getting personal on your blog. It helps foster a great relationship with your readers and builds a level of trust. So, I can trust you guys, right? I can tell you something personal and sort of – well – embarrassing? Maybe it's embarrassing, but maybe (just maybe) it's awesome?


Here it is: I am a living, breathing, single girl in New York City. Wait for it – that's not the embarrassing part. I'm single, but only sort-of. You see, I think I'm dating my blog. That's right. I'm pretty sure that this part of my life – the one that's supposed to be filled by a very handsome, smart and funny human man – is currently occupied by my blog. Don't believe me, here's 20 reasons why I'm probably right:


  • I think about it all the time. Especially before I fall asleep at night.
  • We spend a lot of time together on weeknights. I'll make us dinner and we'll just hang out on the couch.
  • We seem to get along better when I'm drinking wine.
  • I get dressed up for it pretty much everyday.
  • I tell people we met in Paris, not on the internet.
  • Sometimes I'll surprise my blog with a visit in the middle of the work day, just to say hi, because I miss it.
  • My parents know my blog, and talk about it up to their friends and the rest of my family.
  • I used to be sort of embarrassed about my blog. I didn't think anyone would understand, so I kept it mostly to myself. As our relationship has grown, and I've molded it into something I'm wildly proud of, and I take it with me everywhere.
  • We occasionally get in really dramatic fights; usually over it's inability to do exactly what I say.
  • When something really great happens, I tell my blog first.
  • My friends without blogs tell me that I spend to much time with it, but I know it's just because they don't understand our relationship. And they're jealous.
  • I think my blog can tell I'm seeing other blogs, and has noticed that I give it less attention lately.
  • I sacrifice spending time with my friends to spend time with my blog; after all, we're trying to build a future together.
  • I'm constantly reminding my blog that writing guest posts isn't technically cheating.
  • My blog has introduced me to so many great people, and if we ever break up, I hope they choose me.
  • It's pretty much all I talk about on Twitter.
  • We're official on Facebook.
  • Not having a smart phone has ensured that I still have “me time” away from the world we share.
  • Every time I think about breaking things off, something pulls me back in. Usually it's shoes. Or jewelry.
  • It may not be the biggest, most handsome, strongest and most popular blog out there, but it's unique, it's mine, and I love it.


So there you have it. I honestly can't decide if this is totally amazing or totally therapy-worthy. My blog and I have been together for over two years now, and they've been some of the best years of my life. We've laughed, we've cried… We've been to Fashion Week. I suppose, while I search for a nice human man, the warm glow of Blogspot will have to suffice.


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68 Responses

  1. Delia McManus

    I love it! I too have blogging to thank for during this midlife thingy I’m going through! Having said that it does sorta take over your life, in a good way.

    Being slave to fashion for as long as I can remember and having to tone it down from time to time to make appropriate for work or people you are with, now I can dress up the way I’ve always wanted to like wearing a hat or wearing a variety of accessories without being accused of where the hell do you think you are going with that? You know what I mean, now you can really dress it up take photos, upload to your blog and HEAVEN, a la Ophra ahhhhh!

    Thanks doll-Delia

  2. Ashe

    Taylor, you crack me up.

    Also, my blog is FAR more forgiving on my shopping habits than my boyfriend is… so my blog would make a better boyfriend…

  3. Maycie

    This is just too hilarious! Love love loved reading it.

    I too have the same relationship with someone named “my blog”

  4. Sheryl

    I think I am also dating my blog. It is scary how much time we spend together. I often fib to my friends about having plans when I do not when fashion news breaks.

    I wonder if there is a “cure” for this?

    I wonder if I really want a cure for this??!!

    Should I consider “Bloggers Anonymous” meetings??


  5. Geraldine Looker

    Ha ha sounds very familiar to me. I feel less guilty when my husband is not around. Wine works so well for me too. So does chocolate!
    Ps I have anote book on hand at all times and my camera in my handbag as well as my blackberry!!!

  6. Ashleigh

    This is hysterical and so true! I’m cheating on my husband with my blog. We had an argument about it last night! 🙂

  7. Courtney

    Aw! This was a cute post! It reminds me that I would love to see someone do a post on blog/romance balance, or basically how not to ignore your partner for your blog.

  8. Ana

    Ha! This was so fun to read 😀 !

    I love how there are many points, not just a few, and that, with every single one, I thought: “Oooh, good one!”

  9. Daniel Dunt

    This made me laugh so much, aha. I can relate to the majority of the points you bring up and well, it seems if this is the case, my blog might be my girlfriend. How odd is that? Aha. – Daniel

  10. 2kodi

    Lol…hilarious, sometimes it’s just hard to balance your passion with real people around you…just look for the balance

  11. Attorney2be

    Great post! While homework and my child consumes my life, I haven’t made my blogging relationship official. But I can see how extra activities in a single person’s life can take the place of a real relationship. I date essay papers on a weekly basis. 🙂

  12. Sophia

    Haha! This is totally me, I’m completely committed to my blog & it’s always taking up my free time! This made me laugh so hard! Love that I’m not the only one! <3

  13. Omaily

    Oh My Freaking God. This is hilarious, and yeah story of my life. I never thought of it this way. I feel less weird now.

  14. Emily

    Haha!! What a brilliant post!!

    Also loved reading some of your early posts re Paris – not often that you go back that far in someone’s blog archive 🙂

    I think my boyfriend often feels like he’s competing for my attention with my blog 🙂

  15. jamie

    i. am. embarrassed. (not really).
    love this. and beyond true.
    at least we get to make our blogs look exactly how we WANT!

  16. Anna

    Well-put! haha a blog definitely has some parallels to a boyfriend…
    I think my boyfriend gets a little bit jealous of my blog at times!

  17. PinkBow

    A bold statement… But I think this is the best article about blogging I have ever read! I was nodding all the way through it 🙂

  18. TheOnlineStylist

    My blog is my husband – I loved it so much I married it. Ask me flesh and blood husband and he’ll agree with all the points above! Fantastic post – so funny and SO true! x

  19. Ashley

    I love this post, and completely identify with it! Right now I’m feeling guilty for neglecting my blog while living my real life, it’s terrible!

  20. Melinda

    Haha what a great, clever post!
    I think my blog is like my secret lover. I adore it but it feels naughty spending so much time with it when there are uni assignments or housework to be done 🙂

  21. GFS

    This is hilarious! My blog is my boyfriend on the side…especially when my husband ticks me off…or it’s game night!

    Way more entertaining then looking at the game!

  22. Rachel

    This is beyond ridiculously true for me. And I’m married. I’m having an affair. Goodness. I hope my husband doesn’t notice.

  23. Lauren

    I know exactly what you mean! My blog is my boyfriend on the side, which I confess, causes me to neglect my human boyfriend all too often!

  24. Lou Johnson

    Ohmygosh this is all painfully familiar. I have a real boyfriend as well and sometimes it’s difficult to distinguish which one is my ‘bit on the side’.

  25. Allison Jones Design

    This was a great article! I’ll pass it off as PASSION! Be it in the form of a male or a blog! I too wake up thinking about my blog and fall asleep to it as well!

    {There was a typo in the last one!}