Blogging isn't easy. It's hard work for most to create content on a daily basis. We put ourselves out there, sometimes we get praise, some can be brutally honest, and sometimes just plain brutal. Bloggers have to develop both a thick skin and a level head, and even when thing seem crazy or even pointless, hanging in there can lead to places beyond our expectations. There are things we all do at one point or another that only make things more difficult. While it's important to feel your feelings, sometimes those feelings aren't doing anyone (especially ourselves) any good. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves without even knowing it, but it doesn't have to be that way.
10 Acts of Blogger Self-Sabotage
- Don't bother finding your passion:Are you really passionate about your blog's topic? Do you really believe in what you are doing? Blogging is a long haul and if you're meh about what you're writing about, or you're just blogging because that's what you think is going to make you tons of money, you'll burn yourself out in about five minutes flat (trust me, my first blog did just that). Not to mention, whatever readers you can muster will see right away that you're not 100% coo-coo for Cocoa Puffs over what you're doing.
- Compare yourself to other bloggers: We've covered this several times here on IFB. But that's because it remains true that comparing to another blogger is never a good idea. First of all, we only see what's happening on the outside. Another blogger may seem more “successful” but that doesn't mean their success would be right for you. They may also seem prettier, richer, skinnier, younger, older, have better style etc. but that doesn't mean anything. We don't know what goes on behind closed doors, or in another persons head, and there is no sense in speculating. Everyone has a different path, so maybe it's just a matter of you finding a path that works for you.
- Listen to naysayers: This morning, I was having brunch with a friend, who said “Remember when you wanted to open a cupcake shop in 2003? We all thought it was a crazy idea, and now there are cupcake shops everywhere.” I also wanted to be a professional blogger in 2007 and everyone thought I was crazy, but after listening to the people to talked me out of the cupcake tree, I thought it would be best to at least try one of my crazy ideas. Five years later, I own IFB, which employs five people including myself, and I really couldn't be happier. People will be dismissive of ideas they don't understand, that's normal, but that doesn't mean you have to listen to them. If you have a dream, go for it, you just might find that dream could come true.
- Avoid learning new things: These days everything changes so quickly, what works one day may not work the next. It's so important to be a success in any industry to stay on top of what's happening, and to always learn new ways to grow. If you don't evolve, your tactics might get old, your blog might look like it's from 2006, and your readers might get bored, or you might get stuck in a rut. The most inspiring people I've met are always hungry to learn, they're refreshing and youthful in their mid-sixties and there is no reason why we can't all be like that.
- Take it easy and don't do the work: Be honest, are you really doing the most you can to make your blog successful? If you're not, that's ok. But if you really, really want to be a great blogger, there is a lot of work involved. Knowing what to focus your energy on will help curb the workload, but no blogger becomes Cupcakes and Cashmere overnight without putting a lot of work into it, not even Emily Schuman.
- Improvement? Practice will help anyone improve, being they are learning new things. The thing is it's easy to find your groove and stay in there. Kind of along the lines of #4 it's important to learn, but it's equally important to implement. Whether it be your writing, your photography, design, or your marketing tactics succeeding, constant improvement is vital to evolving and inevitably succeeding.
- Do everything on your own: No one is an island. There is no such thing as self-made success. Knowing when to ask for help is probably the most important skill to have. There are so many talented people in the world, and knowing how to identify them and convince (sometimes you don't need to do so much convincing) them to help will improve your experience, and make you feel a little less alone in your blogging adventure.
- Don't take your blog seriously: How on earth is anyone going to take yourself seriously if you don't take yourself seriously? If you are going to become a professional in any industry, whoever hires you to do whatever task must feel that you have a firm grasp on what needs to be done, and you take it seriously. That's how business operates, especially when there is money involved. If you're not taking yourself seriously, that's fine. Just don't expect anyone else will.
- Think small: The old saying, “Reach for the moon, you'll get to the tops of the trees. Reach for the tops of the trees, you'll never get off the ground.” It's amazing what bloggers can do when they set their sights to the moon. Whether it be television, modeling, writing amazingly addictive posts, thinking big opens a whole realm of possibilities, as you'll never know unless you try, and you'll never try unless you believe you can do it, and think big.
- Give up: Giving up is the surest way to fail. If you feel like giving up, then perhaps it's time to reevaluate why you are blogging, maybe you haven't found your passion, or maybe you don't believe in yourself. I've felt like giving up a lot of the time, but hung in there only to find that things do get better, better than I could have ever imagined.