As a blogger, it's likely that your “brand” has a lot to do with who you are as a person. In fact, for most of you, your brand is your likelihood. As a result, it's important to stay true to yourself when choosing which brands to collaborate with. It wouldn't make sense to work with Old Navy, say for example, if your goal is to one day be invited to Chanel's fashion shows. In fact, you may just simply want to say “no thank you” to their offer.
On the flip side, there may come a time when a brand is a good fit, but simply isn't compensating you fairly. Even if you feel like the deal isn't working to your favor, the excitement of a brand reaching out to you may cause you to say yes anyway. But in the back of your head, you know you should have said “no.”
That being said, when you're first starting out, it may be enticing to work with anyone who notices you — and hey, who doesn't want to make an extra buck? But as you begin to build your portfolio, you may notice that the brands you work with in the beginning may affect the offers you get after you build a significant following. And sometimes, even when you are just starting out, you may need to say “no.”
While blogging is a business based in taking risks and snatching opportunities, sometimes learning how to say “no thank you” is a learning experience in itself.
You don't have to say yes to everyone or everything. But why is saying “no” to someone so difficult sometimes?
We all do it. Instead of saying simply, “No, I'm not interested,” we come up with excuses to skirt around not doing something we didn't even want to do to begin with.
Saying “no” means there's a great chance we might disappoint or upset someone. And then, as a human, we all understand the unsavory feeling we get when others say “no” to us — making us not want to say the big N-O to someone else even more so.
Furthermore, saying “no” can feel like you're being defeated. Instead of “trying” something or being flexible, you are simply denying the opportunity, which surprisingly is something many struggle with subconsciously. But instead of feeling cynical or like you are a disappointment, understand that the word “no” is actually healthy.
Think about it: In reality, you are simply setting boundaries for yourself. “No” is actually freedom from doing what you don't want to do. As things can get overwhelming, “no” becomes your liberation, and it sure is powerful.
Saying “no” also can have it's consequences. You may upset someone, or more importantly, you may upset someone important, like someone you do business with or a family member. While this may be a hurdle you will need to cope with, the power of saying “no” will benefit your mental health in the long run.
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[Source: The Power of No]