Are social media expectations making you lose your mind? 3 Bloggers share how they deal.


by Julia DiNardo of Fashion Pulse Daily; @FashionPulse

Are social media expectations making you lose your mind?  I'm sometimes torn in a million pieces throughout the day, trying to keep up with writing posts, then making sure tweets go out, Facebook updates happen, the images get pinned, I use the recommended hashtag at an event…and the list goes on and on. I also sometimes get teased or told to put the phone away by friends and family when I take photos of objects and immediately click on Facebook or Twitter to share them.

I feel like there's an unspoken requirement to constantly keep up with social media, which in turn, creates an unfulfilled compulsion in me to do so, because the job is never truly done. Sometimes  I look back at what I did on a given day, and although it may have been a successful one from a social media perspective, in reality it fragmented me away from the work that is the glue that holds everything together– my blog content. Feeling that I'm not alone in these sentiments, I enlisted a few blogger colleagues who keep up with the social side of things incredibly well, to address the expectation to immediately tweet/pin/Instagram/Vine out information multiple times a day, and how they manage to make it work with their  professional and personal lives.

Ehmonie Hainey, What's Haute Magazine;  @WhatsHaute

Ehmonie Hainey“Social media is a double-edged sword. As a blogger and editor, utilizing social media tools is both necessary yet time-consuming. I embrace social media for the instant feedback it provides, as well as the opportunity to share content with new audiences. But posting regular Tweets, updating my Facebook page, re-sizing photos for Instagram and adding pins to Pinterest can be a drain and takes up valuable time that could be used for other important blog-related things. And I find that the more new applications launch and become hugely popular, the more I find myself (and my time) stretched thin. But I still try to use these apps several times a day, usually posting on one or two and using the share option to post to the others.”

Jeannine Morris, Beauty Sweet Spot; @BeautySweetSpot

jenninemorris“Sharing relevant information via my social media channels has become such an important part of my lifestyle that it's become second nature.  Most of the time, when I check in on Foursquare, Tweet or update a Google + or Facebook status or create a Vine it's because I'm doing something or have a piece of information that my audience would care about and I want to share it with them.  I feel incredibly lucky to have an audience that cares about my advice and recommendations so interacting with them is fun.  As much as I blog and update my social media channels to keep my business running, it's also my passion and that comes first.  At the end of the day, when you do something you love it all falls into place and you realize you're not really doing it for yourself anymore, but for your readers, which is the most rewarding feeling.  My social strategy is really to do what comes naturally.  It seems to work best.”

Grace Atwood, Stripes & Sequins; @GraceAtwood

graceatwood“I would say that it takes a bit of getting used to.  When I was just starting out, I checked everything compulsively, to the point where my boyfriend and non-Internet friends would get really annoyed with me.  Now, I am much better about it.  I check it a few times a day but don't really think about it very much.  If I'm eating a really delicious meal, maybe it will get Instagrammed… but once I've done my update, the phone goes away.  No need to check how many likes or look at everyone else's feeds – I can do that later… it's not going anywhere!  I balance my blog with a full time job, and I'd go completely crazy if I was constantly checking in all the time. During the week, I don't have a ton of free time, so I'd rather focus it on getting my real work (job stuff + blog posts) done. On the weekends, I stay off social as much as possible.  I check it for work a few times, and will maybe do an Instagram here or there, but weekends are when I recharge my batteries and write my blog posts… downtime is really important.”

How do you handle social media expectations?'

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About The Author

Blogging at her site Fashion Pulse Daily since 2008 and working on fashion's editorial side since 2003 has lent Julia the acumen to think creatively and endure in the colliding worlds of blogging, fashion and beauty. New York City is her backdrop for inspiration (and many a outfit photo), where she is often found on her couch, feverishly typing away at her latest post, with her trusty feline at her side. Follow her on Instagram , Twitter, and Pinterest.

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7 Responses

  1. Natalie Heather

    It’s funny, I never really felt pressure to keep my social media updated. Maybe it’s because I don’t have a lot of followers on either platforms, so I don’t feel pressure from them – which I like. If I do see something particularly pretty, I will take a picture of it. If something funny or exciting happens, I will tweet it. But I’m much like Grace – I’ll do my bit, then the phone goes away.

  2. Adela

    I used to be on FB and twitter all the time and felt like I was missing out if I wasn’t, but I realised there’s other important stuff, like living life outside the Internet world. I still use it a lot but much less 🙂 and life goes on.
    Adela x

  3. Sarah's Real Life

    I really need to get better about not checking everything 15 times a day! Like when there’s a red light, I could just sit and look out the window and NOT down at my phone. Grace is right…it will still be there later! Haha 🙂

    ~Sarah of Sarah’s Real Life

  4. Kenneth Jacobs

    The reason I check my social media, honestly, is when I get bored (which can be often lol) or when I have a post that I just wrote and want to share with my followers & readers. Also, if I find something inspirational, I’ll post it via Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr and go about my business.

  5. Elena

    So many new media plugins, sometimes I wish that the half of them would disappear:) My family also gets annoyed when I check my phone during dinner and I’m trying not to worry about the blog when I spend time with friends and family but it’s not easy at all!

  6. Alyssa

    I have recently felt like social media has taken over my life and I was just sitting down to reevaluate my social media time to get the best use out of it…glad I saw this article!