Blogger Beware: How to Tell if YOU are the Spammer


Yes, you.

Everyone hates spam. It wastes time. It wastes energy. It wastes space in your inbox. The very worst spam can even compromise your computer, bank account, or social media. That's why it pains me to see a lot of fashion bloggers turning to spam themselves. When you're new to the blogging scene, it can be hard to tell what's okay and what's not. After all, you're learning a lot just from watching what others are doing, and if other people are spamming, then spam can start to seem normal to you too. However, spam is absolutely not the way to go, and spamming others can definitely harm your blog for the long-term.

So how can you tell if you're becoming a spammer? Well, do you do one of these three things?

  • You leave your url in the comments section of other blogs. In fact, you can't make a comment without copying and pasting your URL at the end. That's spam. Most blogs allow you to enter your name and website URL as you're posting a comment, and that's really all you need. If someone's interested in what you have to say, they'll click through that link and check out your blog. However, putting your url at the end of the comment immediately makes the comment seem disingenuous (i.e. less genuine) and like you're just interested in just getting a backlink as opposed to actually engaging with the site (this is especially true if your comment is just “Great blog!” followed by your link). And just in case you've read somewhere that leaving your url in the comments section of dozens of blogs will improve your SEO…it won't. Most links in a blogger's comment section are “nofollow,” which means your site gets no SEO benefit from it. You're better off only commenting on the blogs you're genuinely interested in, and even then, only if you have something to say.
  • You send e-mails to random bloggers asking them to link exchange with you. Don't do that. I'm serious. The days of reciprocal link exchanges as a quick and easy way to get ahead in the search engines are long over. Not only that, but the average well-established blogger will simply not want to exchange links with you. There's just nothing in it for them. Even worse, if your link profile starts to look artificial from too many link exchanges, Google will actually devalue your website in the search engines…the exact opposite of what you want to happen! If you're wanting backlinks that stand the test of time and actually lead to more visitors and better SEO, consider doing guest posts for bloggers you like. You'll reach a new audience, get organic backlinks (search engines love those), and be helping another blogger out.
  • You tweet at random bloggers asking them to promote your giveaway and/or you leave your url on other bloggers Facebook pages. Unless you've been invited to promote yourself, don't. Other bloggers are not a means to an end for your competition, your Facebook page, or your page views. No one likes feeling used. No one likes being 1 of 100 other people you sent an identical tweet or Facebook status update to. No one likes it when your very first interaction with them is to ask for a favor. Personally, I automatically block people who send spammy tweets to me, and I ban people who leave spam on my Facebook page. I also know I'm not the only blogger who does so. Don't ruin your chances of building a relationship with a blogger or brand by making your first very contact with them a spammy one.

When I've told other bloggers they're actually spamming, their first reaction is usually a defensive one. “But aren't bloggers supposed to help each other out?” many of them say. “I just want to spread the word about my awesome blog/giveaway/article!” Yes, bloggers should want to help each other out, and yes, maybe you do have an awesome blog. But the way you approach people matters. Focus on relationship building first; make sure that first interaction is always a positive one. E-mail bloggers you enjoy just to say you like what you're doing. Retweet an article from a blogger to you like to your own followers. Do those things without asking for a favor or expecting reciprocation. Why? Because when you show a genuine interest in other people (as opposed to just seeing them as a way to boost your own blog), people will show a genuine interest in you.

At the end of day, all spammers have one thing in common: they want quick and easy results. Spam is just a numbers game; if you post your url to a 100 blogs, at least a few of the people who see it will click on you. But it's not scalable, and it doesn't foster the kind of goodwill you need to make it as a fashion blogger. Remember that nobody likes a spammer. At best, you simply look unprofessional; at worst, you'll end potential relationships before they even start. It may take more time and more energy to do things the right way, but it's the only way to get long-term results.

What do you think of spammers? Have you ever spammed before? Let's get a conversation going in the comments.

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73 Responses

  1. Angel

    Haha! Finally someone tells it like it is. And what better site to have this post than IFB? Let’s see if this will cause a groundbreaking slash in all the spam I’ve seen building up in numbers for years…

    I once looked at a new style blog I stumbled on, and on the most recent post, the blogger posted photos of her outfit. On top of that, she wrote about how her life seemed to be going down in a spiral because her boyfriend was in the hospital for something really bad, and it was just a very painful time for the both of them. I scrolled down to give a comment of admiration and support, but along the way, there were short comments like “Gorgeous photos! xoxo (instert URL here)” “Nice outfit! (instert URL here)” It’s like, dude, she’s going through a really hard time and you just zoomed past everything that actually mattered in the post to throw superficial comments around.

    I don’t care how long you’ve been blogging. If you’re reading this comment, just please, stop right now. For everyone’s sake.

  2. Catching Flight

    I’m so glad you wrote this! I just started blogging and there’s just so much spam everywhere. What’s strange is that sometime, you go to a spammers blog, and they actually have tons of comments and followers. I don’t know if it’s all superficial or if spam actually works these days.

    • Angel

      Being a superficial spammer works and gives you tons of superficial spamming followers, know what I mean?

      Have fun blogging! Always be true to yourself with your blog. <3

      • Catching Flight

        Haha that makes me feel a little better. Thanks for the encouragement!

  3. Ais

    I’m never sure what to do with people who leave both their URL when the link to their page is clickable through their name (unless I’ve invited them to do so). Is it rude to edit out the URL from the comment?

    • Krystal

      It is absolutely not rude to edit out a persons url from a comment. It is rude for a person to insert one. If they left a meaningful comment i always just edit out the url and approve it.

      • Ais

        Thanks, just wanted to make sure I wasn’t being rude and I’ve had to do that quite a few times.

      • Call me M

        I do this all the time with comments on my blog. I edit out their URL and approve the comment. I make it clear that this is my policy (just above the comment box), but they don’t even bother to read and they still leave their URL in their comments. I agree with Krystal!

    • Cora Harrington

      I agree with everyone who’s commented on this. It’s not rude to edit a url out of someone’s comment. Why? Because they’re trying to use your comment section for free advertising. The entire point of leaving their link is to leverage your audience to get clicks back to their site…that’s what advertising is. I don’t appreciate when people try to take advantage of my site for their own ends (if you want to advertise with me, there are appropriate ways to do so), and so I delete their url…whether it’s a blog, brand, or business.

  4. Bettina

    I’m glad that I do none of the above! I do think that when people leave their URL it makes the comment feel less genuine. There’s a place for the URL already, so let’s leave it at that 🙂

  5. Dania whyte

    Im guilty of one of these! Thanks for the heads up!

    Style n love, jamaica

  6. Krystal

    I absolutely dispise spammers! It boils my blood because I give out so much love and so many shout outs on my blog. If you take the time to read through, you can see that I am all about sharing good info. So all you have to do is contact me and if I like your stuff I may feature, retweet, or do a response post. Why pass up a potential great relationship for a spammy action that will probably get you no result.

  7. Shira

    I’ve read in quite a few places that it’s ok to leave your url at the bottom of the comment as long as your comment is genuine and you’re commenting not to just get linked back. I think of it like leaving a signature after your name or something… I do it all the time:/

  8. The Redhead

    Semi-guilty for the comments part! In my defence I only do it when my link is not clickable through the name and I never EVER leave automated messages to anyone. If I like what I see I will definitely comment on it. So, stop leaving your link. Got it 😛

    Thanks a lot!
    PS: Now I feel sad realizing my last post is filled with spammers.It was the first time I got comments on my posts 🙁

  9. Laura

    The IFB community is notorious for this.I cannot log into IFB with out getting a million messages “Follow me, I’ll follow you” with 10 links to all their profile pages. If I like your blog, I might follow you. If I don’t like your blog I won’t bother. But please, leave me alone and don’t spam my IFB mailbox!

    • anne m bray

      Laura, I was scrolling down the comments to see is anyone mentioned this about IFB and the Messages section. You nail it!
      The countless Blog URL, Twitter URL, Facebook URL, etc etc then “Be sure to send me your links…” Um, my links are on my profile. Take the time to read me first before you go begging for follows. I generally won’t click on anything in a spam message unless you have an interesting Avatar or name.
      Here is my all-time favorite: “Just wanted to remind you that you have a lovely blog. It’s amazing! I would be very happy if you could check out my blog, too, and follow it using…”

  10. Noemi

    I’m guilty, I confess (only of one of the three things). I leave my blog URL when I comment other bloggers’ posts. I do it because… that’s what I saw. Usually bloggers that leave comments on mine do it, so I’ve always consider it a “part of the job”. If you visit the blog of very very famous bloggers you can see that 90% of the comments are by “spammers”, because they know that blog can give them visibility. When I comment on other blogs I see that almost every bloggers do it. Personally I don’t mind if somebody does it on mine, but what I can’t stand, honestly, is when people leave comments like “there’s a giveaway on my blog”, “visit my blog” or even when I publish a post full of info and photos and somebody writes “cute”. What does it mean? Since I like to comment other blogs (and used to do it even before started my own one) I always try to give an opinion, which shows that I actually read the post! Well, sometimes I just write “you look amazing, I love your shoes/dress” because that’s what I think. What else could I write on blog like Atlantic Pacific? But I swear that I would never leave a comment without thinking what I write. I would never write “I love your style” if I didn’t think it.

    • Saša

      I agree with you! I also leave my URL on every comment! I’m new in blogging, and it seems like bloggers replace their signature with their URL! But I never comment just to leave URL, and I always write what I think! BUt I will sure rethink spamming after this post!


    • Nancy

      I did this too. I didn’t think it was spamming, it’s just what I thought you were supposed to do. I made the terrible mistake of posting my URL with comments on GOMI. I posted genuine comments, and I wasn’t trying to self promote. I just thought that’s what you were supposed to do. I received a rediculous amount of hate for it, but I learned my lesson.

    • Dee

      I’m guilty of that too, I’m a new blogger and that is what I’ve seen others do, so I thought it was a way to introduce yourself, as in Hi, my name is so and so and my blog is so and so, just in case others are interested on clicking.

      However, I never comment to just comment, I always leave a genuine comment related to the article. I also don’t understand people who go around asking for follows, because I prefer having a few followers who are genuinely interested in my content rather than tonnes of people who felt obligated to follow back but wont genuinely be part of my community.

      Thanks IFB for the heads up

  11. Kenneth Jacobs

    Thank you thank you thank you for this!
    I do admit, at the beginning I did leave my website url after each comment, but I’ve begun to do it less now. Doesn’t mean I haven’t stopped completely. I like to leave meaningful responses on blogs, rather than the “great outfit url”.

    Would it be spam if I leave a meaningful response and then my url?

    • Bethany

      No, not at all. I leave meaningful comments with my url all the time on blogs that I love. It’s part of my signature, just to let them know where it came from. & to let others know that I’m a blogger.
      I delete comments if they have absolutely nothing to do with the post but just have backlinks. But even if someone says “Cute outfit!” and signs it with their url,I I’m fine with that!
      Most of the blogs that I’ve gotten into were ones that I found had similar interests BECAUSE they left their url in a comment & I clicked it. So I think having your url as a part of your signature is fine. But at the same time, if you frequently comment on the same blog, there should be a point where you back-linking. *Personal opinion*


  12. Hey Mishka

    I disagree with the first point — I click the URLs people post below their names frequently if their comment is intriguing or I want to check them out. This is a good reference, the same way you can quickly click links in someone’s email signature.

    Secondly, clicking the “name” field on a blog comment, even if it is a link, sometimes leads to a weird page (like an open ID profile) or some other profile rather than a direct blog link. Blogs and comment apps vary, so this is not always efficient.

    I leave my URL below my comment as a practice when I comment, and I’m not offended to see it on my blog or others. Then again, I don’t leave comments at all unless I have something genuine to say. ;}

    I would identify spam as mindless self-promotion without giving something back, whether you’re creating value or providing feedback. It definitely is spammy if you just write “cool!” followed by your blog URL.

    So rather than say it’s spam to include your URL, perhaps noting that any mindless, quick comment for the sake of self-promotion is the thing to avoid.

    Beware – URL below! ;}}


    • Hey Mishka

      P.S. IFB is also a good example of this. I might want to check someone’s blog, but the names attached to comments here link right to your IFB profile page — the activity page, not the info page, creating two additional clicks — and that blogger might not have their blog URL listed at the top of their activity feed. Hence, it takes some digging to get to someone’s blog, and you might not have the time/patience, especially if you’re trying to check out multiple blogs in one go from the office, etc. A useful, well-placed URL is not such a bad thing, and it’s not always a mindless ego move.

    • Annette

      I completely agree with everything Mishka said and never regard an URL under a meaningful comment as spam. It helps me to check out my readers’ blogs and get in touch with them.

      Lady of Style

    • Alysa Friesen

      I agree with this totally.
      I don’t mind if people sign their name/finish their comment with their blog url
      I don’t like it when they go “check out my latest style:” and then link their most latest post though. It’s happened a few times. And usually the rest of the comment is just “cute” or “nice!” like thanks? no.

    • Noemi

      I agree with you. I don’t mind if someone leave the URL of the blog in my comments, if the comment is cute. I often leave a comment on The Sartorialist and I get visits from those post. And I visit other blogs when I read an interesting comment or I just like the name of the blog.
      When someone leaves a comment on mine, I usually visit it and if I like it, I start reading it, so maybe it can happen the same thing at my blog.
      But if I just see the name, I don’t click on it, because I don’t know where it leads.

    • The Redhead

      I agree. Actually the comments that are truthful even if they leave the url underneath are not spam. And I like clicking and seeing who is the person than took the time to comment. If you have disqus on your site though you will see that the majority just copy pastes something like:Cool blog! “url” and that IS spam and I hate it. That is the only thing I absolutely never will do.

    • anne m bray

      Agree with you Hey Mishka.
      I have Disqus for my commenting service and names once linked to the commenter’s blog or twitter, but now it just goes to some weird place — which is most unhelpful. I personally don’t mind an added URL, then I can easily jump to that person’s blog — especially if it’s someone I don’t know. I DO moderate any comment with a URL and white list genuine people, black list/delete the spammers.

  13. Ashley "Ashe" Robison

    When I’ve told bloggers they’re spamming, I often get a, “but I see everyone else doing it!”

    Well, not to sound like your momma, but if everyone else was jumping off a bridge, would you do it too?

    Think about how you feel when you see other bloggers doing that. Think about how you feel when it’s a bait & switch– they’re asking you to visit them, but don’t reciprocate. Do you REALLY want to be part of what contributes to those feelings?

    I certainly don’t.

    • Cora Harrington

      Yup! Spammers attract spammers. I’d rather have 10 genuine comments from people actually engaging with what I write, than 100 comments from people just looking for a place to post their link.

  14. Sian DeCiantis

    I was a an accidental spammer until I read this in the way that I left a comment with my URL on peoples blogs. I did read somewhere it is a good way to get people to your blog but will not be doing it anymore- thanks for this post found it very useful.

  15. Nasreen

    Hahah I think everyone needs to read the first point twice because I hate spammers but I have to admit, I sometimes do that. But in the end, NO traffic comes from those comments and actually the blogs where I have left genuine comments and have been following for awhile, garner better results.

    When I read a really nice comment on my blog and then see a link, I immediately doubt it and withdraw from visiting their blog, fearing that the spammer is “winning”

    • Cora Harrington

      Exactly! Even if the individual isn’t trying to spam it still makes people second guess your intentions, and that in itself can prevent visitors. I’m glad you said this.

      • Nadya Helena

        Let’s face it there are always pros and cons about leaving URL in the comment box. Some of the blogs with Blogger platform don’t have the option to write down your URL.

        IFB often emphasizes that blogging is a community, a two way street. If someone leaves nice and thoughtful comment to me, I WILL MOST DEFINITELY check out their website, regardless of them leaving URL or not.

        I’m sorry, but judging someone’s genuineness and interest in our blog just by looking whether they leave URL or not is a little shallow.

        Spamming depends on the content. If you leave a one word (or three words maximum) of comment and your link, that is spamming.

        Nadya (according to your definition this is spamming, okay then 🙂 )

  16. Douglas Smythe

    Nothing ticks me off more than spammers! However, I must admit the stuff they leave, obviously run through Google translator is serious comedy! Often I will post on our Facebook page “Spam of the Day”.
    Has anyone received the spam that actually puts down your content or article? I don’t understand the strategy with that one.

  17. Jeanine Marie

    If you want followers you have to do the work first. Go read someone’s blog before you send them a request to look at your blog. Leave sincere comments and no leaving your URL with a generic comment.

    I use to get slammed on this site with requests and I have to say I find it so obnoxious to read their list of demands (join every one of their sites) before they could be bothered to go look at yours.

    If you take the time, you can meet other bloggers who support each other. I have met some really cool women here.

    • Cora Harrington

      Spot on. Building an audience takes work. There are no popular bloggers I know of (and I’m not just talking about the big names here) who have built their audience through spamming hundreds of blogs. None.

  18. Tamara Chloé

    I totally disagree with pasting your blogs URL after leaving a nice comment!
    I like it when bloggers leave their URL because it is so much easier to check out their blog that way!
    Sometimes when I click on a name, it doesn’t even lead to their blog!
    There has been times where I thought they didn’t even have a blog, untill they left another comment with their URL!
    So to me it is not spamming, only very helpfull;))

    Great post of course,:)))

    xoxo Tamara Chloé

  19. Call me M

    This article is amazing! And I’m so glad you wrote something like this. I’m so tired of these spam comments on my blog, and I don’t like seeing them anywhere else either. It’s annoying when people comment on a post, just to leave their link. Especially when they also leave a link to their Facebook page, Bloglovin’ account, or whatever else account they have. If I want to check out your blog I’ll do it by clicking your name, and if I’m interested in finding you on Facebook, etc. I’m sure I can find those links on your blog. No need to put them under your comment.

    Personally I have a policy not to accept extra links in the comment text. I make it clear, that every non-related link will be deleted. They already get one link by leaving their URL on the website box, and one more if they choose to check the CommentLuv box, and that’s more than enough.

    The only exception I make, and I’m not proud to say this, because I really hate doing it, is leaving my link under my comment on blogs that don’t have the Name/URL option enabled (how annoying for us with self-hosted blogs!), and only because people are too lazy to read the small text I wrote on my blog (created only for commenting reasons for these specific occasions) directing them to my actual blog.

    P.S. I’ve linked to your post on the post I just scheduled for tomorrow, and I’ve also shared it on my FB page in hopes that other bloggers will read it too! 🙂
    Thank you for this!

  20. Kate

    I agree with most of this full heartedly, but wanted to voice that it doesn’t bother me one bit when people leave their URL in the comment – I find when you click on a lot of names it takes you their google+ page now, which may or may not be affiliated with their blog. And sometimes bloggers have more than one blog listed on their blogger profile, which can be confusing. So I actually kind of like when they leave their current URL in the comment… provided it’s combined with a thoughtful comment and not “cute shirt!” followed by the URL. I don’t do it, but only because I know clicking on my name will lead you to my blog, but if it didn’t, then I’d leave my URL in the comment.

  21. Bloomaglow

    I had no idea that leaving your URL in the comments was spamming. I am new to blogging and thought that was a very positive way of promoting your site, as long as is an honest comment with valuable feedback. I just thought that was part of it. Thank you for this post:-)

  22. Daisy Dai

    Thank you for posting this interesting article about a topic that I didn’t even know could be a topic, but has been one of my secret fears as a blogger.

    I have been blogging for maybe a month now (I know I am just a baby!), and I leave my url all the time. Am I spamming? Ahhh the horror!

    My motives aren’t greedy. I am not trying to generate traffic when I use a url. And I only do it when I think the blogger might find one of my posts interesting. I simply want that one person to enjoy my blog post as much as I enjoyed theirs. For example, I would comment on a person’s blog post and say, “Love all those tribal print trend ideas you posted, it inspired me to do this photoshoot ____________ (insert url).”

    I honestly don’t know the proper fashion blogging etiquette, but I am trying my best to learn it!

    Please don’t hate me for my spam!

  23. Anita

    I wrote a few years ago about all those spam comments. I didn’t know it’s just gonna get worse.

    I have to admit I shared a link to my giveaway few weeks ago (my first blog giveaway in 4 years of personal style blogging) in my comments, but of course I read the post first and wrote a nice personal comment.

    What really goes on my nerves are ‘follow me’ and ‘could we follow each other’ comments. But as Catching Flight said, it actually works these days.
    I can see bloggers that started their blog like few months ago and they gained way more followers in that time than I did in 4 years.
    And not just that, they are engaging with brands, get publicity and even make some money (when I earned 1€ in one year of having adsense on my blog, lol).
    I admit I’m jealous here. Feeling like a working class kid (which I actually am) in cold capitalistic world.

    But on the other hand, it’s so nice when I write something personal and get comments where my readers let me know what they think/are happy for me/feel compassion,…
    Way better than being a spamer who just get comments from spamers.

  24. Eva Tornado

    In my blog I have special box for attaching an URL. But anyway a lot of girls add one more URL in comment box. What a hell? Are they blind…? Or do they think others are? Honestly, I never delete their URLs, because they don’t actually disturb me… But I can’t stop surprising with behaviour of women… Each wants to be “rich and famous” fashion-blogger and doesn’t care of anything reaching this goal. %) Has someone of them actually ever thought about the fact, that bloggers from The Blonde Salad, Atlantic Pacific, Stratorealist, etc etc had never been spammers? And the popularity of your blog doesn’t depend of the fact how much people will visit you back. They will visit just to attach blog’s Url back in your comments, but will not have real interest in your blog and they are not a real audience. Spammers do this just to create illusion of fame of their blog, that brands or other ppl think they are famous and influent. But this is lie. And brands will understand it after the first collaboration, and your blogs will be in the black list of the brands’ pr-services.

    • Noemi

      I think you’re right about famous fashion bloggers who never spammed, but the blogs you’re talking about were born when blogging wasn’t so popular. Nowadays, it seems that almost everybody has something to say or to show. I’m not a personal style blogger, I like to share through my blog what I like and what I think. I see girls who post incredibly simple outfits through very bad photos, maybe because they don’t have the skills or the means.
      But, there’s a very famous blogger who started posting nude photos of her on the net (it’s universally known) and then became famous. Some people are simply lucky, others have to earn everything with hard work, when they can. If you take a look at The Blonde Salad, for example, you can see that most of the comments come from “spammers”, but if her blog didn’t have many comments, would she considered so important? The only blogger that I know who doesn’t allow comments is Sea of Shoes. All the others, in my opinion, need spammers, in a certain way. And we all know that stats can be manipulated.

      • Cora Harrington

        I 100% disagree that bloggers need spammers. If you’re a spammer, maybe you do, but there are still bloggers building audiences the old fashioned way, i.e. by spending their time on writing great content, engaging with bloggers they like, guest posting on other sites, and interacting with their readers via social media. If nothing else, spam is an incredibly inefficient use of time.

      • Noemi

        If you take a look at some of the most popular blogs, of the 200 comments they have, 180 are from spammers that promotes their blogs, their giveaways ect. If the bloggers deleted all the spammers’ comments, they would have 20-30 comments or less. It’s so also in their FB pages. I mean, I see FB pages with 300.000 followers and then 30 likes and 30 comments (and half of them are from other FB pages, so “spammers”). Isn’t it weird?
        There must be a reason why they admit this, and this is also because they need them to increase the traffic, which, I repeat, can be easily manipulated.
        I often leave my url, because I see that it brings me visits and then maybe those person find my blog interesting and they come back. Some bloggers for some reason admit the links from some people and not from others (for example Damsel in Dior). I think that it’s how you comment, not just the url. I often see comments by a blogger who comments every single post I read, in some many blogs, and she always, always, write the name thing “Cool blog” or “You look great”, I just clicked on her url once and then never visited it again because I didn’t like it. There’s difference between a true comment with the url and a fake one. That’s my opinion.

  25. Taylor Dandelion

    Thankyou for writing this post! I really agree with the first statement; it angers me when people post a link after their comment.

  26. Brandy

    I wish this was an article I had read when I first started blogging. The first comment I got after 5-6 months of blogging was “cool blog dear, would you like to follow each other?” and my naive mind thought that is how the blogging community w

    • Brandy Saldana

      (My bad, I pressed submit too early, the things that happen at 5:30 am)

      But getting back to my point, my impression from the first comment on my blog was that was how the community worked.

      Most of the “friends” i’ve made here on IFB have just messaged me all of their links requesting follows and offering to follow me if I do. While I understand the need to support one another, I dislike the fact that I am only being messaged to follow others and to send them my links when I have all that stuff on my profile. it almost feels like people are desperate, and while I wouldn’t mind more followers myself, in the end I would be happier with a small following of people that actually read what I wrote and don’t just say they like my outfit or blog.

      I realize I need to stop leaving my link on other blogs that I love because I definitely don’t want them to feel used. I’ve made some good friends while blogging and want to respect them and their comment box. That being said, I’ll make sure to share this article with others. Hopefully they get the hint. =]

  27. Magdalena

    Such a good article!!! When I read the title I was sort of scared haha I would die if I became a spammer, no one wants that! So great article, congrats 🙂

    BTW I started a blog a couple of months ago, just because I hope to work in fashion in my country (Chile) some day and Im studding nothing related to that, so I thought it was a good idea to start with that while Im still studying… ANYWAYS, my point is I just started out, I am absolutely ignorant about anything blog related -or actually internet in general related-, and I loooove IFB! Every article is so good and teaches me things I didnt even know existed! Like contacting yourself PR agencies, now that I read about it, it sound absolutely obvious but I needed to read about it first.

    But my point is, that this website is amazing. So I just wanted to congratulate and also thank -especially thank- the whole team of writers behind it. I really think you guys managed to create a really insightful and useful website.

    PS: Sorry about my rambling and bad english, my excuse is that its really early and that my native language is Spanish!

  28. Ayesha

    This is the primary reason I never log-in to ifb, I always get bombarded with “follow me!” requests instead of genuine networking and critique.

    On the flip-side, I stumbled across Moi Minnie in the comment section of a post and I’m a loyal reader of her site. How did she convert me? Quality commenting. She didn’t leave an additional URL, she simply had something to say.

    Why would I follow someone who doesn’t respect, or is unaware of, the etiquette of their community? No Thanks!

    • Jennine Jacob

      Hi there, thanks for your feedback. We actually changed the system a long time ago where only friends can email each other. If the people are bothering you with those messages you can always unfriend them.

  29. Katie R

    I also can’t stand the “follow for a follow” thing. I follow the blogs I like and expect everyone else to!

  30. Sarah Harman

    er… leaving your URL at the end of a comment spam? There are multiple articles on IFB explaining why you should… and quite frankly I don’t find it spam at all when others post URLs at the end of their lovely comments on my blog because it means I can easily visit their blog to reply.

    Now when people post a comment and just say “pretty! visit my blog” THAT’S spam.

    Sarah x

    • Tali

      Exactly! And to be completely honest, I actually see a lot of successful bloggers with big following making rounds on the same blogs that I read, leaving everywhere the same “Wow, amazing! kiss, name, blog url”. Just a freaking copy-paste. I mean if they’re so important that they don’t even care that the girl just wrote her dog has died, and left the “wow amazing” comment, then they better stop commenting at all. But otherwise – I feel like adding a note for all my readers (in big letters) please, leave your url!! It’s so frustrating when you have to play detective while trying to locate the blog of the girl who just left the most interesting comment ever, and you can’t communicate back in any way!

  31. Andrew

    I can’t say I’m not guilty of that. Even on comments on IFB, I always leave my link. But now that I’ve read this, I know that my comments just look like self promotion. I want the bloggers to know that I really liked their post, not that I just want to get something for myself! Thanks for the awesome article!

  32. liontony

    I love this post haha, I guess it’s important to be too pushy but at the same time I don’t feel pushy enough.

  33. Elaine C

    THANK YOU FOR THIS POST. I will only follow you if I genuinely like your aesthetics. If you like what you see, then follow. Or else your blog roll is just going to end up like a big mess haha. I like to follow a few blogs that I know I will look at more often then not.

  34. Natalie

    I do agree with the article, Yes spamming is annoying but can we please write an article on a GOOD way to “hustle”?
    What are ok ways to promote your blog that aren’t annoying? Other than re-tweets or personal emails
    To build that initial traffic and following for you blog I feel like you do need to send out messages and leave your URL you can’t just expect people to find you

  35. Tali

    I disagree with the “link at the end of the post” thing.
    After spending long minutes trying to find the blog links of some commentators I feel like begging – girls, leave your url at the end of your comment!! Even here at IFB, isn’t it much easier to click on the link that first go to the IFB profile?
    You don’t want to, don’t click on it!
    Cannot we all tell meaningful comment from a meaningless or is it only the link that bothers you?

  36. Samantha

    FINALLY, someone addresses this! I’ve been spammed before, only, I was like one in a couple hundred who received the same link on Twitter. It’s terribly annoying, rude, and like you mentioned, I felt used! It’s as if some bloggers siphon users from popular blogger accounts (i.e. followers on Twitter) and spam them from there. Argh!

    What I DO really appreciate, is a personal message. I’ve gotten those on Facebook to just me and I usually reply back that I’ll check out their blog and get a personal message back to me saying thank you. Now, those are the blogs I check out and comment on!

    Thanks for the post!

  37. Peach Black

    wuaaaw. Eye opener. Ok. I started bloging a month ago and I was looking at blogs and thought this is normal practise. So I did it too (bad me). But what’s even worse is that I thought how rude when some blogger didn’t reply to my msg which was genuine. lol. And I was wondering why. And that not all. When I got first comments on my blog, I was so happy that I checked out their blog with the link they gave me and I replied to them….hi hi..silly me…being naive…they didn’t answer back on my blog :/

    The point: I’ll never do it again and I’ll edit urls out from coments on my blog.

    Thanks for the info

  38. Samantha

    I have to disagree about the leaving URL in comments,

    I have no problem with it as long as the comments genuine, I also like to be able to visit their blog!

  39. Alysa Friesen

    Ever since this was posted, I’ve been thinking about it.. (and have stopped putting my link after my comment lol)
    I just have a question: How do you get people to stop posting spammy comments on your blog?
    I have a few people who comment with one or two words like
    Great outfit
    and then say “check out my post” and leave a link. All I’ve been doing is editing the link out, but it’d be nice if they stopped completely.
    what should I do?

  40. Wendy Adams Mendenhall

    Cora, it is both reassuring and refreshing to see that the act of a professional approach in the sharing of a craft can be done so through simple graciousness. I appreciate your time to share through this article that there is a way to perform graciously and in the long run benefit through thoughtfulness and patients. Lessons hard learned, well learned and relevant. Thank you.