I have written a lot about success, and I'm constantly thinking about it; what it means to me, how to identify it, and pushing it even further. But not once have I ever said (or thought) that you must BEG for it. To be fair, I think that Amy Odell chose the wrong word (probably on purpose, to get more page views) when she used the word beg in the article on Cosmopolitan, “If You Want to Be Successful, You Have to Beg For It.”
I HOPE she meant that you have to prove yourself, work hard, and go after what you want, and you will be successful, and NOT that you should get down on your hands and knees and beg for jobs or work.
Sometimes I do see the desperation, and begging that goes on amongst fashion bloggers (but not just), and it's not pretty (slide shows, too many giveaways, constant sponsored posts, hashtag overload). But, you do not have to do desperate things for traffic, comments or attention, you just have to focus on what you're good at, what you love, work harder than you think you have to, and you will achieve success. As I've said before, your success will probably look very different from another blogger's success, and that is OK.
Your success may mean that you have extra money in your clothing budget, that you start writing for your local newspaper, or you get to review something you really love.
Maybe success to you is that you connected with people who have similar interests to you – everyone's success looks different.
My success is firmly as a mid-level, slightly under the radar, fashion blogger – and I'm happy there right now; I'm doing everything I want to do exactly how I want to do it, and earning a very good living at the same time. You would be stunned at both how low my page views are and how much I earn from affiliate commissions each month; in theory, it doesn't make sense. But because of my unique combination of talents, that I started nearly 10 years ago, and my niche, I've been able to make it work for me.
I worked very hard to get where I am – I reached out to everyone I thought would make great partners for my sites and I made sure to firmly establish myself as an expert in my niche early on by proving that I knew what I was talking about and building up a portfolio of successful partnerships. I knew what I wanted and went after it as hard as I could; I didn't beg.
I never compromised my values or what I wanted to achieve for my brand by going after something that wasn't relevant, or by accepting something I didn't want to do. That's what “begging” is to me – the pleading, “I'll do anything” mentality that sadly IS prevalent among a lot of bloggers today because they DO think that is the key to success. Now, thanks to Amy's article, even more people will think that. It is NOT true. Pleading, desperation, and selling-out will only get you so far. Knowing what you want, working hard, and never, ever compromising will get you much further – in life, and in work.
Don't beg. Do:
Identify what you want
What does your success look like? Where do you want your blog to “be” in a year?
Determine how to GET what you want
Figure out the steps (write them down) to getting what you want. How will you GET your blog to where you want it to be in a year?
Do the work to make it happen
Just do the work. Do everything you can think of to achieve your goals.
Work even harder
When you're done working, work some more. Keep checking in with your values and goals to make sure you're heading in the right direction and NEVER compromising.
Reach a milestone for success
Once you've achieved success, determine how long you want to stay where you are. Can you keep steadily growing?
Take a moment to congratulate yourself on getting where you are, then figure out what you're doing next 🙂
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