Throughout my entire life, my dad has always given me a dose of tough love when it comes to me talking to others and sharing my accomplishments; “Speak up!!” he would demand; “Tell so and so about your ___,” “You're mumbling, don't whisper when you talk,” and so on. My dad, who is truly my number one fan, was trying to break me from my shyness and prompt me to become more assertive; no one likes a braggart, but being too modest can have its detriments as well. I've eventually learned that it's essential to truly be your own advocate, even if you find it painful to talk about yourself.
When it comes to social media, however, I have absolutely no problem with sharing my sentiments, personal details, potentially private moments, and insights into my daily life, with virtually anybody who cares to see or read them. My images and text are basically screaming, “Look at my fabulous new ring I just bought! Isn't my cat just so precious when she curls up on the chenille blanket? Check out how skilled I am at nail art! Look at me in this outfit – aren't I the cutest? I just “checked in” to the most amaze restaurant in town; yeah I hang with the cool kids, like, all the time. I just wrote about ___ — here, read it here, now it's the beeessssttttt!”
So what has shifted? Those that know me only in the atmosphere of online may think that I may a self-centered braggart, a narcissist, a “me me me” individual, however…does it take one to know one?
I don't really believe that one particular person is standing out in this space as an egomaniac, because we are all waxing poetic about ourselves.
It is encouraged — scratch that — expected to be all things at once when it comes to blogging, which includes frequently using social media to relate to your blog content, reinforce it, promote it, and share who you are, since in many cases, our blogs are reflections of ourselves.
Have you ever tried to post on social media without, in turn, sharing something about yourself? It definitely takes a determined, conscious effort to avoid doing so. Through blogging, and the other channels that we as bloggers use to support it, I do believe there is an increased comfort level with talking about ourselves, however, I think the idea of these actions leading toward narcissism can be curbed if we make it more of a two-way street. Don't just talk; listen, comment, and engage with others. Ask for opinions, advice, and think about what your readers really do want to hear about and see from you.
Have you ever worried that blogging may make you seem narcissistic?
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