Three Tips for Not Becoming “That” Annoying Blogger


I've written here before about how mixing blogging with your personal life can get complicated. It's unavoidable when you are the topic you're writing about—whether it's what you wear, your home or how you entertain, you are the common thread.

But it's important to know where to draw lines, so your family and friends don't start to roll their eyes and avoid your company. It's difficult to come up with hard and fast rules, but it is possible to develop a sense for when to be a blogger, and when to be a family member, or a friend, or a host, or a human being. Because no one wants to be THAT blogger, right?

1. Know when you're being annoying.

If you're going to blog about your party, you obviously need to get photos. But don't forget that you are also the host. If you can, hire a photographer or get a friend to do it. But try to avoid arranging desserts on the table for 20 minutes for that perfect Instagram snap while your guests stand around wondering when they can eat their cake and get the heck out of there.

2. Ask people if they're OK with being on your post and being named.

Be more sensitive than you think you need to be—other bloggers might assume (and even hope!) they'll appear on your blog, but “normals” may not welcome photos of themselves appearing online without their knowledge. I recently wrote a post about a baby shower I threw for a friend where one of the guests was a well-known San Francisco restaurant owner, so I made extra sure she was cool with me publishing her photo and name.

3. Know when to give up.

Sometimes, it's not worth it to get the photo. For example, this past weekend, we had an out-of-town visitor, and we decided to go for a walk to the beach. I had a post collaboration with Munchkin (the kids' product brand) due that week, so I figured it was the perfect time to test out the baby stroller tote they sent me and snap a few photos. But when I tried to attach the tote to the stroller, it slipped out of my hands and the coffee I had place inside spilled everywhere, including on our guest's white sneakers. I didn't know if I'd have another opportunity to get a photo for my post, but I didn't want to further inconvenience everyone, so I set the contraption aside and we carried on with our walk.

It's easy to get wrapped up in deadlines and the need to get content up on your site. But being a good fellow human should always come first, don't you think? Have you guys learned any annoying blogger lessons? I'd love to hear about them.


[Image via Her New Tribe]

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About The Author

In addition to being editor at IFB, Kristen writes for Forbes, Eat, Sleep, Denim, and her own blog, Stylenik. Previously, she served as the San Francisco editor for Racked, covering the intersection of retail, fashion, and technology. She has written about everything from human cloning to luxury shopping for publications including Wired, Gizmodo, Refinery 29, and the San Francisco Chronicle. She lives in a '70s house in '70s clothes on the Northern California coast. 

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14 Responses

  1. .Mercedes S.

    Well said! I don’t have personal photographer so I try to get family members or friends to take my photo whenever I know I’m wearing something new – or have a good hair day- but sometimes it’s not worth the hassle.

    We have to remember to live first and formally coordinate/plan the photos for another time.

  2. Mayra

    Yes silly stuff always happens when I think oh hey this would make a great post idea. Cranky 2 year old, fumbling with everything I have in my bag to get camera ready, 8 year old not wanting his picture taken. Husband telling me I missing in the now moments etc.

  3. Sagan Morrow

    Good points here! And I agree with Mayra that it’s SO important to not miss out on the moments while trying to capture the moment for a blog post.

    Another point I’d add here is to be cautious about storytelling involving friends and family, even if you DO use a different name and don’t include their picture. It’s easy to get caught up in blogging and tell personal stories, but it’s important to be aware of when a personal story is someone else’s story to tell (or not tell), and how others will feel when they read a blog post that includes something about them.

  4. Rebecca Ann

    Eating out… trying to get that food post but everyone is staring at you wondering why you need to take a photo of your food. Most times I will only make the effort if its just my husband and I, he unfortunately just has to go along for the ride! HA!

  5. Ms YoLee

    very true. I just recently had a birthday and I decided that I was going to enjoy the moment rather than worry about taking photos and posting and spending more time on my phone than my guests.
    It’s absolutely important that you set strict lines of personal and your blogging life, and to keep them separate. I wrote a piece on this, you are welcome to check it out. xo

  6. TlvBirdie

    That’s an interesting topic!
    I agree, it is extremely important to stay natural and involved in your daily LIFE, and to implement blogging part of it in a very balanced way so no one get hurt! I don’t think about these to as a “separate” things, the trick is to stay yourself and to learn how to mix!


  7. Lumee

    It’s funny, when I first started my lifestyle blog, I had no idea what to expect from my friends. Was shocked to see just how supportive everyone was. To the point where when we all go out for dinner now, they know not to touch their food until I’ve captured it haha. They even remind me sometimes to take a picture when I begin to feel a little self conscious about pulling out my camera in public. Mindblowing still to get that kind of support and it makes all the difference. Some of them would rather not appear in posts which is absolutely fine and others don’t care about being photographed and named which is absolutely fine too. All about the support system around you.

  8. Ann Krembs

    Great post. Excellent reminder. Your three points are right on. I try hard to stay in the present moment. Also, being a librarian makes me uber conscious of putting people online without their consent.

    I really like this post and its reminders. Thank you!

    Ann of Kremb de la Kremb

  9. Onianwah

    Oh, I’ve always disliked being annoying, being noticed or being uncomfortable so I’m more often than not more likely to just enjoy the moment than take pictures, lol (really sad for me cos then I always have to get pictures from everyone else, lol).
    I don’t know, I’m still very normal for now but maybe when I’m more popular I might get a little off. Until then though, I’ll never know.

    Lagos, Nigeria

  10. Melody

    Uh oh! I’ve done that exact no-no #1 at a closet swap party of which I hosted. I kept trying to get surprise reactions and the perfect cupcake photos for Instagram and a Blog post. At one point I just had to put the camera down. It started to feel like a photo-shoot when many of my (shy) guests just wanted to mingle comfortably and visit with me. Lesson Learned.

    xo, Melody

  11. Justine Hong

    Great post! I agree, there’s a time and place to take pictures and it’s not always acceptable to do so in every single situation. I always try to bring a friend or a photographer to take pictures if I’m in charge of coordinating or hosting an event.