Don’t Be a Mean Girl on Your Fashion Blog

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We know you guys are all beautiful people and never mean. But a recent post at Gossip Girl about Mindy Kaling's red carpet outfit en route to a Q&A event with Salvador Perez, her costume designer for The Mindy Project, was a harsh reminder that the stereotypical, judgmental, fashion-obsessed mean girl still exists:

Mindy made the woeful mistake of trying to blend about five different shades of rose, and SPOILER ALERT it’s not working. Not all pinks are created equal, nor do they expertly blend like, say, many different hues of blue might.

But let’s imagine for a moment that Mindy chose just one hue, this outfit still wouldn’t have worked. She’s dressed like a second grade teacher with that silly floral blouse and country-club wannabe tweed skirt. Her earrings don’t go, her shoes are utterly forgettable and even her nail polish clashes.

Mindy, you’ve managed to turn my favorite color into a crime against fashion. For shame.

W to the oah!

I mean, mean girls are associated with the fashion world, whether the nice girls among us like it or not. But in the seven years I've been in this industry, I've been pleasantly surprised to encounter very few of them. The reason I started a fashion blog was to hone my personal style, to feel more confident and comfortable in my own skin, and to inspire others to do the same. There is no room for nastiness in that mission.

Bottom line: fashion should be fun. We're not curing cancer here or launching rockets. Women face enough challenges at work and in society; let's be kind and encouraging to one another. It's not that hard.

Mandy's response to Gossip Girl?

@gossipgirl whoa, u guys are dicks

— Mindy Kaling (@mindykaling) June 8, 2015

On point, as always. She has since removed the tweet, but plenty of outlets caught it, and have cheered her on. We got your back, Mindy.

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12 Responses

  1. Sagan

    “Bottom line: fashion should be fun.”

    Hear hear! It’s not about judging people for their fashion choices. It’s about exploring different styles, sharing fashion ideas, and figuring out a way for our style to represent who we are. And just because someone else’s sense of fashion is different from our own… doesn’t mean that it’s wrong! Everyone has their own way of doing things 🙂

    <3 Mindy.

  2. Melody Sours

    It’s one thing to have an opinion to which we all (especially bloggers *wink-wink) are entitled. However being mean just for the sake of being mean is not cute or helpful to anyone.


  3. chantelle pidgley

    I agree with you all !!
    But then alot of people follow rude opinionated people as it spices up their life at work etc. Its a little like reality tv on the net .
    Some people do take it too far though…..
    Anyway have a great day all my lovely IFB friends from london uk xxx

  4. Carla

    I couldn’t agree more! A lot of people thinks my style is “too much” but I don’t care. If you don’t like it just let it go. People need to do what makes them happy and humiliate a person in public makes no sense. There’s so much to criticize on this society, why bother with 1 person who is doing nothing wrong?!

  5. Sabina “OceanblueStyle” B

    So true. Love that post. I just posted a really fun picture me wearing some beautiful suede leather platform boots with fur rim. Also used filter to give it a summer fun feel. The only thing one fellow blogger had to say way: Take off your socks sooner next time (because some marks very slightly visible) Then I told her all I am saying here adding I was not that critical. Which I acutally am but felt like she needed a hit. You know what: she got back asking “why?” Then I should have deleted it altogether never to return to that amount of negativity and spitefulness. But I came up with a punch line (;-)) remarking that it was a tatoo… there! But the point it usually women look in the mirrow full of negativity. Its those kinds of women who put it there in the first place. Sabina | Oceanblue Style

  6. Jessica

    how you speak of others says a lot more about where you are in you life than them. Always good to remember when people try to bring you down online!

  7. Gracious Store

    ” fashion should be fun. We’re not curing cancer here or launching rockets. Women face enough challenges at work and in society; let’s be kind and encouraging to one another. It’s not that hard.” You are absolutely correct and I share your view point. We ladies should learn to be nice to one another. Let us always try to uplift each other rather than demean anyone. We can still be critical of each other but let’s do it nicely not meaning to hurt but to help.

  8. Nadya from

    Kristen, great post!
    I read the Gossip Girl post and felt almost sick. Who can they be so mean! Poor Mindy. At least the readers disagreed with the author and showed their support to Mindy in the comments.
    This kind of posts should not be tolerated for sure… but I wonder whether some dose of irony is still acceptable. Especially if it is directed to truly special outfits that were meant to provoke a certain reaction.
    In my blog I often write about other fashion bloggers and their outfits. I spice it up with some irony, but sometimes I worry about whether I cross the line. I do not want to be mean, and my goal is rather to have fun (fashion _is_ fun!) and to evoke some laughter.

    Anyway, thanks again for your post, Kristen! Good stuff to think about.

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